For personal reasons my story had to be diluted somewhat, but basically my fundamental reason for leaving my job was not only because I felt I was missing out, but because I felt my son was too.
I don't feel guilty about being a Stay-at-home-Mum but I will admit that the decision to leave was not easy. I honestly believed that going out to work on a job-sharing basis was my 'me-time' that gave me the best of both worlds and allowed me time spent in adult company. Therefore I was initially reluctant to give it up!
To be honest there are some careers where it is perfectly acceptable for a mum (or dad) to give up work to care for their children, no raising of inquisitive eyebrows whatsoever. It saves the company money, you see, and besides some work colleagues can view job-sharing/part-time mums in a less than favourable light.
Ultimately I made my decision very quickly and have not regretted it for one moment. I recently wrote about this pivotal decision and my thoughts on being Home Alone and of how I feel the role of the SAHM ( and Dad) is viewed in this country.
I also recently wrote about the question you should never ask a Stay-at-home-Mum, aka: What Jazzy Does all day!
Not all contributions to our society can be measured in financial or economic terms. Which leads me to ask a question of my own....
Why is staying home to rear one's children not considered a career in it's own right?
One should never feel, or be made to feel, guilty or less-worthy, for making the decision to stay home with their children. Nor should anyone feel bad having made such a decision, then feeling the need to do something other than child-rearing and housework in any spare time. That's called me-time and everyone, whether in the paid or non-paid work force, deserves that.
Besides, some stay-at-home-mum's me time can turn into a new career, worked around family needs, or be of benefit to local communities or causes.
Speaking of which, you can support iPhones4Autism.ie , the campaign I contribute to in my spare time, by donating your old iPhone if you have recently upgraded! You can even send me any old mobile phones you, your work colleagues or fellow SAHMs, have lying around! Any donated iPhones will be given to children with Autism (and Special Needs) to assist with communication and all other phones will be pooled and used to avail of Irish Autism Action's Mobile Phone Recycling scheme.
Please support if you can.