On the path to success, suffering is always optional!
Posted May 07 2012 12:35am
Have you ever wanted a situation to turn out a certain way, but were so
frustrated when it didn't happen? Or wanted to achieve a goal so bad,
but wound up deflated when you fell short?
As a recovering
perfectionist, I experience this often. I hold on so tight to an
expectation, a goal or an outcome that I clearly envision will come into
reality, and wind up gritting my teeth and white knuckling my way
through it. I then become blocked, procrastinate or collapse in utter
frustration from banging my head against the wall.
Every time I
catch myself in this place of suffering -- I remember "What you resist,
persists." The more I want something and hold on to the desiring so
tightly, I create resistance, which in fact, pushes the very thing I
want away from me.
suffering is related to attachment. You create your own misery when you
hold on so tightly to thinking how it must be, how it should be,
instead of letting life flow with ease. And when you're attached to an
outcome or situation, you're squeezing the life out of any possibility
of something better.
Is there any area of your life where you are
upset or suffering? Think about the situation and ask yourself how you
may be causing the pain Are you attached to the situation or outcome? And is that attachment causing your pain?
Here are 3 key distinctions to help you release the grip and commit to a successful outcome instead of experiencing the pain 1. Commitment vs. Attachment.
You can be committed to a successful outcome, without being attached.
Being committed allows you to let the world unfold without always
attempting to figure it all out. When you're committed, you don't try so
hard to make it work, you simply allow it to work. You take the actions
you need to take, but without the white knuckle grip on your
2. Know that whatever you're experiencing is perfect.
When expectations are shattered, practice allowing it to be the way it
is. Relax, let go, and recognize that sometimes your desires are about
how you think your world should be, rather than how it is in the moment.
Just let it be in the moment.
3. Welcome uncertainty.
Take time to open your mind to uncertainty and the possibilities that
lie in front of you. Being committed means giving space for
possibilities to unfold and to find comfort in the uncomfortable.
Remember, suffering is a choice. Choose to be committed instead and detach and allow the miracles in your life to unfold!