Shortly after my 27th birthday I landed the ideal job following graduate school: Director of PR for a college in New Jersey. I reported directly to the President, participated in the Board of Trustees meetings, and had lots of visibility in the media.
I felt dead inside at the end of the first year. But why? I had "made" it.
What Was I Trying To Change?
I wanted my boss--a good guy and a good President--to manage me a little differently. He didn't.
I wanted my initiatives to move through the organization faster. They didn't.
At the end of the second year I resigned on good terms and took an overseas assignment doing management training while living and working in the Middle East, Europe, and Africa. Jetting from country to country, running workshops, developing managers, designing programs--almost every day was a peak experience.
When I returned to the US two years later I was recruited by a Fortune 50 company. More responsibility. Broader organizational development assignments. Good salary.
But I wanted my boss to manage me a little differently. He didn't.
And I wanted my initiatives to move through the organization faster. They didn't.
So I left on good terms and started by own consulting, training, and speaking practice. I'm still at it.
What really changed?
Me. It's the only thing I had the power to change. I was forced to evaluate what I wanted, why I wanted it, who I was and, more importantly, who I wasn't. . .and then take a leap of faith that it would work. It did. And my last employer became a client for nearly 20 years.
What are you trying to change?
If it's your boss or your organization--and you like both--it's worth investing in a conversation to see if you can change your circumstances.
But the one place where you are assured the most impact--and influence--is you.
Are you willing to do that today? It could transform the rest of your life.