S.A.F.E. House Responds to a Domestic Violence Victim in New Mexico...
Posted Mar 12 2010 12:00am
A few months ago I received an email from a battered woman/veteran in New Mexico that came to me asking for help. She spent years in the past reaching out to Domestic Violence Organizations with no luck, and was tired, stressed, and spent by the time I spoke with her on the phone. Together we spent a few hours going over a plan of action so that she could maybe get the help and attention she deserved from her state. After weeks of putting together a formal letter, she sent it out in one email to various organizations and state officials in New Mexico. I prepared her for the worst, and made sure to inform her that some people would probably reply to her with negativity or a "run around", and pass the buck to someone else.
Having said this, one Domestic Violence Shelter in New Mexico did respond, but not to the victim. This "advocate" from S.A.F.E. House sent out a mass email, which I was included on, that was completely uncalled for and unprofessional. I will post the email below to expose the lack of response and compassion from a S.A.F.E House employee in New Mexico. I will also post the victim's letter, the one I helped her write, so that my readers can form their own opinions.
Letter from NM Victim
Dear All, March 11, 2010
I am a domestic violence victim in need of help and assistance immediately. I am suffering from chronic pain and in need of ongoing medical treatment due to my disability. My abuser continues to emotionally and verbally abuse me and the children with his parental alienation, and brain washing.
I can't pay child support because I do not have a job, I do not have the ability to work due to my disability. I am suffering and need help.
I need the following, or I face possible jail time because I can't pay child support and I do not have an attorney 1. DV free lawyer 2. Crime Victims Compensation for my medical expenses and possible surgeries. 3. Child Protective Services to step in and remove the children form the abuser's home. 4. Financial assistance and the finalization of my military service connected disability.
I have already contacted the following without help
Resources Inc., Ex Dir.Shannon 4-12-2002 (Gaby, Anita & Ex Dir)
Legal Aid 4-12-2002 (Beth)
Commission on the status of Women 4-12-2002 (Deborah)
Women’s Resource Center 4-16-2002 (Rosemarie Fritz)
Cmty & Indidan Legal Services 4-16-2002 (Duffy) Bill Fuller State Rep. 4-17-2002
Human Rights (827-6838) 4-18-2002
Heather Wilson 4-18-2002 (Jane)
Center for Civic Values 4-22-2002 (Sandra Gardner)
Legal Awareness 4-22-2002
Legal Asst Div. of the Bar 4-22-2002
Southern NM Legal Services 4-23-2002
Southern NM Legal Services Wash. DC 4-23-2002
Victims Assistance 4-23-2002
Albuquerque Ctr for Peace & Justice 4-23-2002
Assistance League 4-23-2002
Bridges for Women 4-23-2002 (Beatrice)
Crime Victims 4-23-2002
Barrett House 4-23-2002
Health Care for Homeless 4-23-2002
Stepping Stone 4-23-2002
Safe House Children 4-25-2002
Concerned Women for America 4-2002
NMCCC 6-19-2002 (Susan O’Brian)
Please respond to this email ASAP, I am in need of assistance and have gotten no where in my struggle.
Thank you, Terri White
Response from S.A.F.E. House Michele Fuller:
There are several things inherently and intrinsically questionable about this email. Among them the fact that the writer identifies her contacts with the numerous agencies s/he lists as having occurred almost eight years ago.
1. Protective Services is easily accessed by calling their Central intake number at 1-800-797-3260.
2. Crime Victims Reparation Commission can be contacted at 505-841-9432.
It is both telling - and interesting to me - that this writer contact so many people and received no help at all.
Michele Fuller S.A.F.E. House
As always, I will mention the S.A.F.E. House Mission Statement:
To shelter and empower survivors of intimate partner domestic violence and to improve the way New Mexico responds to this violence. I don't see any empowering or response from this S.A.F.E House employee.