In the past 10 years, the medical arena has become more educated and knowledgeable about chronic pelvic pain syndromes. To be sure, today, there are many amazing physicians, physical therapists and other providers treating patients with pelvic pain/dysfunction.
That’s the good news. The bad news is: there is still much work to be done within the medical community when it comes to diagnosing and treating pelvic pain/dysfunction. Unacceptably, many patients continue to run into a brick wall when seeking help from medical professionals for their pelvic pain symptoms.
It’s frustrating! And that frustration actually can serve to exacerbate a patient’s symptoms. So we thought it would be a great idea to give patients and providers a place to come and dump their frustrations. So this blog is a drop spot for all the $#*! providers say to patients in their search for recovery from pelvic pain/dysfunction.
Our intention is to provide a tiny corner in the universe for patients and providers to release their frustration in a lighthearted way so they can move on with the business of healing!
Knowing that we’re not alone in our struggles always makes us feel better and stronger.
$#*! Providers Say
“Patient: Could I have pelvic floor dysfunction?
Ob/gyn: No, your muscles are too tight for that.”
“A regular general practitioner at an urgent walk in clinic: I explained I had PFD and he said, “There is no way you can have any pelvic floor issues, you are too young, haven’t gone through menopause or had a baby.”
“I was told by a doctor once that if ‘I was on a deserted island this would go away in six months.’”
“A gyn once said to me: ‘It’s not like you have cancer or something.’ I guess that was supposed to make me feel better about my chronic and at times almost unbearable pain.”
“An osteopath once said to me: ‘You know, pudendal neuralgia is really rare. It’s only one in a million. So I’m not saying you don’t have it, but…’ When he gave me the standard list of back exercises and circled the ones he wanted me to do, I said I couldn’t do some because they would bother my pudendal nerve, and he said, ‘I don’t care.’”
“The first ob/gyn I saw about my pelvic pain told me how complicated ‘that area’ is, and how at medical school he had read about a woman having her vulva removed because of pelvic pain. He said, ‘Don’t make me operate on you!’”
“In looking for the right diagnosis for the severe pain of my first IC flare, I went to a new gyn since my former one was moving. I brought with me an MRI showing a small uterine fibroid. This new gyn told me in the first five minutes of our meeting: ‘That fibroid shouldn’t be causing so much pain. I think we need to do a hysterectomy. All my girls with pelvic pain, even the ones who’ve had cancer come back to me on their knees, thankful that I’ve cured their pain.’”
“I am going to put you on Cymbalta. It is a depression drug and is associated with high rates of suicidal ideations in teenagers, but I think you will be fine.”
“As a PT, I’ve had patients who have come to me and told me that their doctors have told them there is nothing you can do for a diastasis recti except plastic surgery, also they’ve said that pain with sex and vaginismus are due to either not being sexually turned on by their partner or by cultural influences.”
“Do kegels for that.”
If you’ve found yourself open-mouthed and aghast at an outlandish remark by a provider, drop it here then move on because your recovery is waiting for you!