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ME! ME! ME!

Posted Aug 23 2008 3:20pm


Sorry to say, it is NOT all about YOU!



ME! ME! ME!



If your thoughts are constantly focused on the word, 'ME', then you are already on a downward spiral to a very lonely, depressed cycle of thinking.

Whether you are aware of it or not yet, you will wake up one day and spend every waking hour searching for answers to why you feel so depressed, lonely, rejected and full of negative feelings.

Who knows why some of us feel that the world should revolve around us. I have met many, many people that truly, and sincerely believe that they are the center of everyone's day. I myself also can take claim to that feeling of importance. It may be because our parents have raised us to believe that or we may have interpreted it through experiences in our lives. Somewhere we were made to believe that it is all about, 'ME'.

It is one of the most crushing realities when we are faced with the harsh fact that we are not in any way shape or form anyone else's responsibility in feeling like we are important. It is up to us to make ourselves feel important to us. We are so in control over how we feel that it is amazing how many people continue to struggle and cannot understand that what they are searching for what is right in front of their eyes and in their own mind of thought.



Have you ever heard the song, "One is a lonely number"? Well it is a very lonely number.

When you feel like you are suppose to be the number one focus on everyones thoughts or actions, and you find that you are not, it is a very lonely feeling. You are in fact the only one that is standing there feeling rejected and hurt when the other people have no idea whats going on inside of you.

They are merrily going through their rhythm of life without any idea that you are expecting to be their center of attention.

When you spend time dressing sexy for your partner and greet them at the door and they do not acknowledge you, your first thought is ...ME!!! You instantly feel that you have been rejected and ignored, that you went out of your way to please this person and it was totally unseen and unappreciated.

ME...ME...ME again.

Just maybe that person had a very bad day and was looking forward to a few minutes of space to collect their thoughts. Or maybe that other person seriously was thrown off guard and did not know what to say or do which embarrassed them. Also that person could have been expecting you to see them as your center point and read their minds. You are not the only person that has fallen into the 'ME' habit!



Another good example is when someone doesn't answer you in the way that you expect, you feel totally emotionally discombobulated and your first defense is to wonder if that person is mad at you or if you said the wrong thing ect. Better yet, you take what was said and you allow it to control your entire world because it was not what you wanted to hear. ME...ME....ME again!

It may just be that they had a bad day once again or that their preoccupied with something else at that very minute. There really was no negative intention there at all.



If we are not thinking ...ME ....ME...ME all of the time, then we would not get caught in that trap of confusion and feelings of rejection.

Learning to think away from the, 'ME' habit is not hard. It is yet another bad habit that controls our thoughts and only allows negative ones in. It does however take realization and a desire to really find a happier you!

You are probably thinking..."Ok...so how exactly does one get to this point in their thinking where they do not immediately feel that they were a target of a personal attack?" ME....ME....ME!



What I am going to tell you is basically obvious and has been said many times. I can only hope that through my words and thoughts you will actually absorb it and apply it to YOUR LIFE!



**Stop thinking about how you are feeling right now and get into the habit of asking that other person how they feel or if they are comfortable with certain surroundings!

**Listen first, think second, replay what you just heard third and then respond through a positive filter!

Nothing is ever gained by responding negatively or selfishly to others.

**Do NOT play the blame game. Again it serves no good purpose to look for blame in how others think!

**Stop taking everything personally...remember that there are two or more people in this world and it may not be all about YOU!

**Accept that there are going to be those days when you are actually a target of someones bad day. Accepting that before hand will allow you to be prepared to get up and keep moving forward. Remember...dry dirt always falls off!

**Understand rejection...do not take it as a personal attack...everyone has a choice in life...you may just not be their choice! It is a matter of what each person feels is best for them...it is not just about YOU!

**If you feel that a certain conversation is going bad....instead of following it towards that direction, take control and steer it towards a more positive point of conversation!

** Learn breathing, it will help you to understand the movements of your thoughts. It will help you to automatically change your negative reactions to positive ones!

**Be aware of negative self-talk. You can easily fuel that fire if you are not careful of what you allow even yourself to stay stuck on!

**Learn the feeling of being stuck on an issue...take lead on those runaway thoughts. Again, listen, think, replay then react!

**If you feel that you cannot answer a question, do not feel that it is a test of your intelligence, simply say you do not have the answer. There is nothing wrong with admitting that you are not perfect. It is not all about YOU!

**Every person on this earth has the same right to be here as you do. There is no one more special than another. There is only one person that you should depend on and that is YOU!



It is hard to accept the fact that we are not number one to others!

It is hard to be put in a position of feeling that we are and then losing it!

It is damn hard building up our self-esteem day in and day out, when there is always going to be something or someone that will challenge it with or without intentions.

Who ever said that life was going to be an easy, free ride?

When you can learn to stop whining and looking for things to put yourself down with, then you can finally get on with living a free and happy life.

We are not always going to have good hair days, but then we are not always going to have bad hair days either!



If we do not start to understand that it is our happiness and our self-esteem is our responsibility then we will never enjoy what life offers. We will sit there on a merry-go-round and watch everyone else laugh, live, and enjoy.

And guess what....they will do all of that without us. Who wants to drag around a dead weight, or invite a virus to a party?

Think about the type of person that you would like to spend time with....are you that type?



"Disciplining yourself to do what you know is right and importance, although difficult, is the highroad to pride, self-esteem, and personal satisfaction. " -Brian Tracey



You know what to do!

You know how to do it!

So....JUST DO IT!



Keep moving forward!

~D~

Contact me here: DorothyL@womensselfesteem.com

www.womensselfesteem.com















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