Design the Second Half of Your Life: Trauma and Healing
Posted Nov 07 2012 12:15pm
Wouldn’t you know it. The best laid plains interrupted by life!
This topic was not what I was planning for in the Design the Second Half of Your Life series but Hurricane Sandy has triggered the kind of trauma that ignites fear and anxiety and strains our closest relationships. As much as we witness support and a great sense of the American spirit at work in the affected communities, we seek the comfort of our closest relationships to help us ride out the storm and heal. This natural disaster has reminded us all that life is what happens amidst all of our planning and attempts to control.
Traumatic events are unexpected and unimagineable and certainly the devastation we’ve witnessed here in the Northeast is nothing short of that. Because these events are those in life that no one sees coming, they are frightening and often overwhelming.They can make us question ourselves, other people, even God. ” How did this happen?” Traumatic events affect relationships because they rob partners of their sense of safety and trust. They alter what was familiar. Whether the trauma has happened to one or both partners, the relationship often becomes shaken.When a partner is hurt, grieving, having nightmares, too angry to speak or too sad to hope both partners struggle and suffer. For a time they seem unable to find the ” we” they once were.
Would you like to explore this topic with Real Women on Health?
As part of our on-line radio show series called “Design the Second Half of Life”, I will be speaking with Suzanne about the unplanned part (the “I never thought this would happen to me” part) of designing the second half of our lives – despite the diagnosis, the trauma and the unimaginable.Second Half of Your Life” I will be speaking with my guest co-host, Suzanne B. Phillips, Psy.D, Author, Healing Together , A Couple’s Guide to Coping with Trauma and Post-Traumatic Stress. Learn more about her work at couplesaftertrauma.com . Visit Suzanne’s Facebook Page HERE.