The toll was huge, financially and emotionally, for all of us.
He was eventually arrested and is now in a minimum security facility.
Both of these life threatening conditions, breast cancer and domestic violence, have feelings of powerlessness woven through them like a snake winding its way around its prey. It pretty scary, but to stay in fear is unproductive and it gives the disease or perpetrator way too much power.
Our family is working hard to find a way through this worry-filled swamp. It's tricky to be appropriately cautious and also to not live in fear, all at the same time. Most humans dance this dance in various degrees. Sometimes the fears are created by making stories up of worst case scenarios and sometimes the fears are in response to real life dangers.
Whatever the cause of our fear and sense of powerlessness, it is very important to have a voice. It is in this spirit that I wrote this post and also that we are having a family meeting tomorrow, which will include our two teen grandsons, to brainstorm ways to stay safe, live our lives and love each other through this cancer. It is our own emotional chemotherapy.
Speak out today, the rest of October and all year long about Domestic Violence Awareness and Breast Cancer Awareness, step-sisters in cause.