For those with lifelong weight loss problems, the right diet in the right order can help. But most of the time, it is not often about dieting. This is because it is not usually about food alone. Now it is time for you to stop feeding your demons and know the real fact to losing weight.
If you can’t lose weight, the answer may be very simple, yes I mean simple. But some time it may be hard also. It could be that you are over eating. Simple. Just Cut back.
Some time it could be that you just turned 40 and although you hate to admit it, you will never look the same way you were some 20 years back. Yes thats very hard to admit, but with the right dieting, you can still have a slimmer figure.
Age may not even be your problem, it could be that you have some real serious lifelong weight battle. By that I mean some very critical weight problems, not just some five pounds or so but some real big problem ( Does obesity come to mind ).
Hey, don’t get me wrong, I am not a doctor neither am I a psychologist or psychiatrist. And I am not giving a medical advice. But I have had enough experience over the years to form this opinion.
For those of us who have some real serious lifelong weight problem, the right diet would help but most of the time, it is not always about dieting mainly because it has got nothing to do with eating and food.
Now think about it.
Are you very lonely, angry, depressed? Do you feel guilty, rejected, inferior? Or even unworthy of love or success?
Are you the type that seeks comfort in food because you have been let down in the past ? Or is it that you feel let down by your own very self ?
You probably have tried every diet you can think of and nothing just seem to be working for you or maybe some of them work in the short term but you have got nothing to show for it in the long term.
Then consider this. When you dive into that box of chocolates, is it food or an escape?
Or maybe you have had a sexual assault in your teenage years. Or maybe kids used to tease you mercilessly when you were just but a young man/woman. Could it be that your own family friends always made you feel inferior. Is it that your ex-spouse– or may be your current spouse–made you feel unwanted and unappreciated ?
You didn’t fight back. Maybe you couldn’t — literally, couldn’t.
This led you to turn to food. Mainly for comfort. For pride, which we all crave for anyway. Or for escape. Or just to drive people away.
It is Okay to be shy, feel different and lonely due to your weight and size. It still hurts anyway, but you still have an excuse to hide.
You claim you want to lose weight and live the life you have always dreamt of but when things get tough… you seek refuge in food. And it starts all over again.
So ask yourself this.
If you keep going back to the number one incident or series of incidents or that period that led you to the weight problem you current have, would you choose to relive it all over again just the way it happened?
Or if you have given the chance, would you change?
You need to understand the fact that every time you choose to escape with food, you choose to feed you demons.
To relive whatever it is that hurts you.
To give people who bullied,hurt, teased you the power to do it all over again. And again. And again.
Yes, the choice is yours. To relive or to live.
It is very simple. Yet very complicated.
I understand that fact that you may not have the power and encouragement to do it all alone, but at the same time you can seek the help of a trusted friend.Or better yet, a trained professional.
But ultimately, the choice is yours. Choose to let go.