Did you go to a weight-loss program like Weight Watchers and happily
reach your goal weight? Did you not maintain it when you were without
that weight-loss support?
This is a problem many people have. There is a principle at work
here and it has to do with this: Did you see yourself passively, as
though Weight Watchers gave you what you needed to lose the weight?
Or: Did you see yourself as the actual "changer", utilizing Weight Watchers, yes, but actively making the changes yourself?
This is a critical distinction. Here's why.
When you go someplace for a weight-loss program, and you think of
the program as having an "effect" on you, that effect just might begin
to wear off after you are no longer attending your meetings. But if you
feel that with the help of Weight Watchers you mastered the learning
needed to keep you in control, then this is something that won't wear
off. This is something you can take with you wherever you are, because
the ability resides in you, not in Weight Watchers.
Here's an analogy. If you buy a great new outfit for a special
party, and you put it on and think you suddenly look so good because of
the outfit, then when you go back to your usual clothes, you won't feel
as though you look so good. But if you buy a great new outfit for a
party and put it on and feel: "Wow, I really make this outfit pop",
then you can take your "popability" with you to every outfit in your
wardrobe. You can take the good-looking you wherever you go, whatever
It's active versus passive. It's owning an accomplishment rather
than seeing it as having been bestowed upon you from someone else. It's
knowing how to apply basic principles, rather than just following the
rules of a particular dieting program.
Perhaps, at this point, you can go over in your mind the process you
went through at Weight Watchers. What strides did you make personally
that can help you now? What strengths did you use that you can use now?
What strategies did you come up with during the week in between
meetings when you were on your own?
What can you do right now to step into the weight loss and see it as
a central part of who you've become? Once you truly connect with the
weight loss, once you acknowledge and give yourself full credit for
being the do-er of this wonder thing, then you can hold onto it.
So: What is it about you yourself that pulled you through to your goal?