Why Do Women Who Failed Time and Time Again Keep On Dieting And Trying to Lose Their Unwanted Weight?
Posted Sep 28 2012 5:00am
How many times have you
tried to lose your excess weight? Do you know the average number of weight-loss
attempts for women in the United States, as reported in the 2011 Gallup Poll,
was seven? It is clear, though, that some women have started diets or some type
of weight-loss attempt multiple times each year. And it’s not surprising to
hear some women report that over their lifetime they have tried to lose weight
twenty or thirty or more times.
You would think repeated
failure at something you want to accomplish for yourself would get someone to
just give up and quit. Not the case. What we are talking about here is the
desire to do something about your weight. You may have some initial weight-loss
success but then fail to achieve your goal time after time. Nevertheless, you
continue to try, making attempt after attempt to lose your unwanted weight, and
for each attempt you convince yourself that this time you will succeed.
Your initial success can
raise your expectation for total success, which turns out to be an expectation
you do not meet. One of the reasons you might not meet this expectation is that you
hold some unrealistic expectations. Commonly held unrealistic expectations about
losing weight have to do with how fast you will be able to shed those extra
pounds, how much weight you can lose overall, the amount of effort you will
have to put in, and various ways in which your life will change by losing
You also might keep trying to lose
weight time after time despite not reaching your goal because of the
explanations you give yourself for failing: didn’t try hard enough, didn’t try
long enough, didn’t use enough willpower, didn’t exercise enough, the diet was
too difficult, it was a tough time in my life. You have a reason for failing,
and the reason makes it easier to believe that you will do better next time.
More support for your let’s
try again and again attitude can come too from your investment in losing weight.
Looks, health, social and occupational success are powerful motivators. Even
falling far short of your goal but having a little weight loss success might be
enough encouragement to try again, especially where such powerful motivators
Relief is another important
source of motivation for trying over and over again. Just deciding to do
something about your weight, or making an effort to start can bring great
relief from many different kinds of unpleasant feelings. It can dispel feelings
of desperation and hopelessness. It can alleviate self-loathing and get rid of
terrible self-criticism. You won’t feel like a do-nothing or a procrastinator,
and you can stop nagging yourself about your weight. Doing something about your
weight problem, even if it is just a little thing, can make you feel more in
control. It can renew your hope, and make you think you can do it.
These are all reasons that
if you don’t succeed at first, you will try, try again. But if you are going to
try again, and you most likely are, please try a new solution for the same old