When Eating too Much Food and Eating Too Many Fattening Foods Become Less Necessary
Posted Feb 11 2013 5:00am
If you are able to manage your feelings better and become
more self-reflective, what you eat and how much you eat become less necessary
for your emotional well being. This process of self-change does not happen
quickly or easily. To make such a change you will have to do some hard work on your
If you have fashioned your eating behavior to help you
maintain your emotional equilibrium, your eating behavior can’t be changed
until you’ve established more adaptive, more straightforward emotional supports
Take, for example,
the case of the missing chocolate cake. It was there yesterday, but today it is
all gone. What happened to it?
Yesterday you were
feeling lots of different feelings, some of which you identified for yourself
and others that you didn’t notice. You did, however, have a piece of that
chocolate cake late morning. You were hungry, so you thought, and the cake
tasted great, just what you needed to satisfy your “hunger”.
Then for lunch you
couldn’t resist another piece, and then just a little sliver more because the
piece you had for lunch wasn’t quite enough. Mid-afternoon you slipped into the
kitchen before the kids got home and had one more piece. For dinner you
restrained yourself rationalizing that you didn’t want dessert because you’d
already eaten some. The truth was that you were embarrassed to let the kids see
just how little cake was left. And finally when the kids went to sleep, you got
yourself not one but two pieces. First one piece while you were watching your
favorite program and then another just after you did the last of the dishes.
Now you can treat
this chocolate cake episode and eating episodes like this by working directing
on your eating behavior. You can put yourself on a diet or cut out sweets or
work to eliminate your binge eating. Whatever you try to do directly about your
eating behavior, though, you will need to do something also about the emotions
that you are handling by this eating behavior. Otherwise, your efforts to
change your pattern of eating will be a waste of time.