Hi, I’m Sandra. I want to talk to you about how hard it’s
been to stay at my current weight. I’ve lost weight countless times, but never
been able to keep off the weight I’ve lost. I don’t know why. I can sustain my
new weight for a time, and I’m good at dealing with a variety of eating
situations, but that’s it. Then I go backwards, fast usually.
Hi Sandra, I’m Dominique. I know what you’re talking about.
This used to happen to me, too. Uh, Oh. There I go again. I used the passive,
it used to happen to me, when what I really mean, is that I used to do it. You
see, it’s still hard for me to own it. This is what really helped me to
disconnect from old ways. I changed my thinking. It wasn’t easy, though. I had
to do lots of soul searching. And you know what I realized? There was this big
passive part to me that I wasn’t even aware of. I just used it and used it
every chance I got. I was never to blame; it was never my fault; I didn’t do
it; it happened to me. I even said this about my anxiety attacks; they just
happened to me too. Now I’m different—well almost different. It’s me who is in
charge of me. Things don’t just happen to me. I’m my own change agent. What’s
there is me, and if I want to be a new me, I have to be the one who makes the changes.