Self-Esteem Issues and Having Trouble Losing Weight
Posted Mar 18 2013 5:00am
“You’ll never lose weight. You’ll always be a very fat
Why would you stay with someone who thinks of you like this?
If you think poorly of yourself, you might just stay with a
partner who thinks poorly of you too. While you may want the other person to
think favorably of you, as you think more about the matter, you will decide
that you are getting what you deserve. You will be more comfortable being
thought of unfavorably if you have an unfavorable impression of yourself as
Although this may sound farfetched to you, research on self-verification
shows that people with negative self-evaluations and low self-esteem seek to
verify their self-perceptions, and they may do so by picking or staying with a
partner who reinforces their self-perception.
As you may expect, the need for such negative self-verification
from your partner will play havoc with your effort to drop your weight.