Let’s for a moment think of the weight-loss process as a set
of skills, a different set of skills from what you’ve been using to eat too
much food or eating too many calorie-rich foods, which made you gain weight.
Now you want to lose this unwanted weight, and you have to learn a new set of
skills to help you accomplish your new goal.
Whether you realize it or not, to reach this new goal of
yours to lose your excess weight, you will have to undertake a major
reorganization of your skills. Such reorganization requires long-term, repeated
activities. At first, you will find the going slow and hard, as you re-teach
yourself what to do, how to do it, and when to do it. You will also be trying
to give up old ways while you are trying to establish new ways.
You can expect there to be considerable fluctuation in your
ability to pull off this reorganization. Sometimes you’ll get it and sometimes
you won’t. Don’t get discouraged, though. That’s the nature of the process.
Greater stability will come when you’ve practiced and developed a sufficient
skill base. The process won’t be a gradual, steady, upward sloping line from
start to finish. Old skills, those weight-gaining ones, will be in the mix
until your reorganization is complete. They and the variability in new skill
learning will make it so that your reorganization will have an up-and-down feel
to it. As you grow more skilled, though, you will reach a
satisfying, more sustainable stability.
See if it helps you to think of the process of weight loss
as a set of skills to be learned, a reorganization of your thinking, feeling,
believing, and behaving, as each of these domains pertains to eating and weight