When I go on a diet, within a week I meet with stiff resistance.
Who' s resisting? Me, of course.
So I' m sitting here, writing to Dear Maria, trying to figure out why I resist my own desire to lose weight. It makes no sense.
I' m waiting and sitting, and nothing comes to me.
No one is telling me to lose the weight. I' m telling myself. I really want to and I' ve tried, believe me I' ve tried.
I know the pattern, and I tell myself "this time I won' t blow it in week two".
But I do.
Do you have any thoughts that might help me?
One thought is this: next time you go on a diet, and it gets to be that dangerous second week, don' t panic, don' t fight too hard. In fact, let yourself do what you usually do, which is fall off. Your only job this time will be to really notice what happens in week two. Pay close attention to your thoughts, and your feelings before, during, and after your diet smash-up. In other words, don' t try desperately to stay on. Instead, see what the "stiff resistance" is all about.
You see, you are unlikely to be able to work through your resistance to what you really want unless you can understand it - at least somewhat.
Once you can see more clearly how it works, why it works, what it does or doesn' t do for you - that' s when you get more power to overcome it. That' s where the power and the know-how come from.