The more focused you become as a beLOvedBODy lover (what I call folks who belong to my camp of health and fitness devotion), and the more often you make conscious choices about what, when and how much to eat, and the more you keep your sacred appointments to attend the gym/ workout
~the more you will notice certain folks react to you with their snippy "evil attack"!
We'll call these folks "the haters" ( for now).
The haters may say things to you about food like
"come on, just taste it."
"you mean you can't have just one?"
"but I made it..."
" is that all you're gonna eat? "
"You're no fun anymore."
They may smoke and snarl about your new disciplinary demeanor. They comment about your desire to meet your fitness appointments by saying "grimy" things like,
" you're going to the gym again?"
"Don't you think you're working out too much?"
"What if you just gain all the weight back ?"
"If you're that sore maybe you shouldn't be working out for a while"
They try and guilt you with
" but I thought we could ... But since you have to go to the gym..."
Whenever we beLOvedBODy lovers hear these words, even me, a personal trainer!, we either cringe, roll our eyes, feel guilty and hand over our power, or lace our boxing gloves for a round of self-defense.
The reason why we hate these comments is because they trigger real fears about either our bodies( maybe I will gain all the weight back- oh no!) or it makes us feel obligated to sacrifice our personal commitment ( self-care) for the (selfish) need of another.
But as I said before, don't hate "the haters" for speaking their truth.
Sympathize with "the hater".
You see, you are choosing to live boldly.
You are choosing health over personal neglect. You are moving mental mountains. You are living your vision.
These choices take extraordinary strength, commitment, and clarity.
"The hater" has not mastered this supreme transmutation. But everybody has this potential! Everybody does! We all just need some help!
Explain your choices to "the haters" with loving brevity - keep it short and clear ( don't defend, ever, it's exhausting!), and the keep it movin', beLOved.
Be an example, a leader. Be amazing, not offended.
You might just be the support factor "the hater" needs to invert, and join forces.