You’ve certainly heard all the data, all the statistics, all the
dire predictions for people who are overweight. You may even be
painfully aware of how your extra pounds make you feel, both physically
and emotionally. You may realize how much you suffer from your eating
behavior and its consequences. After all, you live with the negatives
of being overweight every day. Even women who are only 10 or 15 pounds
overweight often feel hampered by it. They can’t move the way the want
to. They can’t look the way they want to look. They don’t feel good
There is a problem if you see this issue only in its negative light.
When you consider your eating behavior as a totally bad thing,
something that simply must be gotten rid of, then it seems completely
irrational. If something is so completely bad for you, why don’t you
stop doing it?
What’s missing here is that your eating also has a very solid
positive side. It actually does something for you―maybe a lot of
things. The fact that it does do positive things for you is why it’s so
extremely difficult to give up.
If your true desire is to change, you need to recognize what role
the eating and the weight play in your life―why and how you need them.
This is most important. Be honest with yourself so you can realize that
yes, there are surely detrimental, self-destructive aspects to your
problem. Try to recognize the good parts of your eating behavior, how
it helps you, what other problems it may solve. This is at the core of