In other words, random thoughts, observations, and stuff that caught my eye:
1) Solve the problem
2) Change your emotional reaction to the problem
3) Tolerate the problem
4) Stay miserable
5) Make things worse.
This is pretty much my response to anyone who is struggling with binge eating:
Once you’re aware (that you’re a binge eater)…you can’t not be aware. Next time, you might wait a little longer, you may eat a little less, or not, but you will think about it again, and you will learn something again, and you will make progress. There isn’t a switch that gets flipped…it’s a long, drawn-out (damn it) process. Being a neutral yet compassionate observer of yourself is the way to go.
And speaking of binge eating and awareness, a recent Scientific American article, The Cognitive Roots Of Binge Eating , suggests that Binge Eating Disorder is connected to attention deficits and poor self-awareness. I have found that the more self-aware I become (and much of that self-awareness came though writing this blog), the less I binge eat. I am also very much aware that my tendency towards distraction doesn’t help matters.
I really love what Annabel (Feed Me I’m Cranky) has been writing lately, especially this: A Case Against Passion (about the current “war on obesity”).
Many of us learned to censor our desires at a young age. Perhaps we were shamed for wanting so much, for wanting the “wrong” things, or for not being the quiet, grateful, undemanding children our parents wanted. If we believe that our desires are bad, selfish, or irrelevant, we will repress the awareness of the things that really make us happy. We won’t admit desires that might rock the boat and make us the target of criticism or anger. All too often, we replace our true desires with the desire to please or to fit in, and do whatever will win us approval. ~ The Hunger for Ecstasy, Jalaja Bonheim
About a month ago I wrote an update on my efforts to reduce and/or eliminate gluten and dairy from my diet. I wrote: “I’ve also stopped eating dairy (except Greek yogurt, which doesn’t seem to bother me).” Well, Greek yogurt DOES bother me. I really wanted for it not to, but now that I haven’t had it for a week, I have proof that it was the yogurt wreaking havoc on my digestive system. So THIS is what’s it like…!
As for gluten, I haven’t eliminated it completely, but I like how I feel when I don’t eat it often.
From the “science backing up the woo woo” files:
“A relatively new field, called interpersonal neurobiology, draws its vigor from one of the great discoveries of our era: that the brain is constantly rewiring itself based on daily life. In the end, what we pay the most attention to defines us. How you choose to spend the irreplaceable hours of your life literally transforms you.”