1. My presentation went great! It’s fun to present research that took a year to complete and have people genuinely interested!
2. We went to the Iowa State game. They lost. I have to say I wasn’t too surprised….I mean, they were playing Mizzou. But it would have been nice if they would have at least scored. Unfortunately, Iowa lost too. We were pretty cold during the game, but we had fun cleaning the stadium and parking lots with a group of volunteers from our church. The only time I’ve seen more beer cans is probably when they are full – in the store. Haha!
3. Our big announcement……..
We have decided to adopt. I have no idea when or from where or really any definite details, but Micah and I made this decision last week. Here is how it happened…..it’s totally a God story and I can’t even put all of this into words, but I will try (although I may need to take a few breaks to pull myself together emotionally).
Last Sunday, I was still in Chicago. Micah called me in the morning and all of a sudden started talking about adoption. This was not like him. You see, we have been in completely different places in our infertility struggles. And that is normal – men and women deal with infertility in many different ways. I have been on board with adoption for a while, but he has not. So I prayed and waited. And others prayed. When Micah started talking about adoption, my jaw dropped. I could not believe the words coming out of his mouth. It was a night and day difference from even the day before.
At church that morning, they showed this video.
At first I thought that maybe that video had changed his views….or that God used that video to change his views. Nope. He did not attend church at all that morning. Totally a God thing.
I returned on Tuesday night. On Wednesday morning, we called Iowa Kids Net to request information on foster care and adoption in Iowa. This is only ONE option we have. I have been researching and learning about adoption for over a year now (most of that unknown to my husband….). It’s so overwhelming. We got our paperwork and information packet on Thursday.
Not gonna lie…..this whole paperwork thing with adopting is a little scary. And we don’t even have that much yet. Eeeeeeek!!!!
Wednesday evening, we went to a meeting at our church where several families were sharing about adoption and foster care. I cried through the last half of that meeting. God has been breaking my heart for what breaks His. For the past month, James 1:27 has been on my mind constantly. And I mean constantly. Micah is the same way.
“Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneslf from being polluted by the world.” –James 1:27
At the meeting on Wednesday night, we talked to a couple that has been doing foster care. We told them a bit about our own journey and they lent us this book.
Adopted For Life by Russell D. Moore. Life-changing. I cannot put this book down. There are countless quotes in this book that I would LOVE to share. Honestly, just go read it. Buy it. Then share it with others. I would buy it for anyone and I’m only halfway through. This particular copy of the book as a story of its own too. It’s been to very far away places (like Africa) with families that have their own adoption story.
Today, we had another meeting that included lots of detailed information on how to move forward with adoption – lists of agencies, financial information, people to talk to, steps to take, etc.
Overwhelming? Yes. Worth it? Yes. Again, parts of this meeting – I was crying. I could hardly make it through. At times I thought I would lose it completely. But I pulled through….until we walked out and I had to just take a minute and get my emotions out.
Our next meeting is in just 2 weeks – YIKES! We are attending an informational session about foster care and adoption in Iowa through Iowa Kids Net .
Though we have made the decision to adopt, there are countless decisions to be made. Domestic/international, age, gender, race, health, etc. Again – so overwhelming. We really don’t know for sure where God is leading us. The one thing we know is this: we want God’s vision for our family – not our own. We’ve already learned this through infertility. I thought by this time I would have at least 1 or 2 children biologically, they would look a certain way, our life would look a certain way, yada, yada, yada…..God certainly had other plans.
So I pray that in the coming weeks and months that God would lead us to what He wants for our family. We remain open to what that may look like and how we will step forward to pursue living out James 1:27.
And although we know we are going to adopt, there is still much pain. Interestingly, I thought that maybe once we made the definite decision to adopt, part of the infertility pain would be gone, but I was wrong – so very wrong.
I’m going to share some information we received today from the adoption meeting.
A few statistics:
1. The United Nations reports that the number of orphans around the world waiting for help is more than 140 million.
2. There are more than 120,000 orphans in the United States.
3. Every 14 seconds a child loses a parent due to AIDS.
4. Every day, almost 16,000 children die of hunger. That is 12 million every year.
What actions you can take to care for orphans:
1. PRAY for families adopting and for the orphans they are adopting.
2. GIVE money to families adopting.
3. SUPPORT families adopting or fostering children.
4. VISIT orphans and orphan workers.
5. ADOPT one or more children.
I know that the numbers seem overwhelming. There is so much you can do, but the only thing that will help solve this orphan crisis is adoption. I leave you with this quote from Adopted For Life by Russell D. Moore:
“Unbridled capitalist prosperity doesn’t make love, babies, or societies. It certainly doesn’t build a church. What we need is a vision that transcends our gnawing after what we think we want and need. We need a vision that shows us that a person’s life “does not consist in the abundance of his possessions” (Luke 12:15).”
I needed to hear this today!
I’ll be back tomorrow with a food post and a recipe!