PTSD Professional Perspective– The Battle Within: How to Resolve Inner Conflict and Add Enjoyment to Your Life, Part 1
Posted Oct 01 2010 4:10am
I’m always on the lookout for professionals who ‘get’ the PTSD experience what it means to have posttraumatic stress symptoms, and what it means to struggle to overcome them. Better yet, I look for practitioners who understand how to HELP us.
In my own experience and in the clients I work with I often see the issue of identity as a major source of stress (as in, we only see ourselves as ‘survivors’ and nothing else). This issue of self-perception leads to a lot of internal conflict, which can get in the way of recovery.
Today, I’m soooo excited to have Mike Blackstone (of the Project Butterfly Code ) return to ‘Making the Shift’ to begin a new series of guest posts about how to resolve inner conflict. With his guidance in this area you will be able to move forward in your recovery efforts, one step at a time. I deeply believe in and agree with Mike’s ideas. I’m confident his suggestions are things you can immediately integrate into your recovery and implement in ways that make you stronger, more proactive and a healing force to be reckoned with!
Not long ago I came across this quote identified as an African Proverb: When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you. I realized it was a perfect fit to begin this 7-part series on how to resolve inner conflict. Many of us experience an inner battle. Early into my coaching and counseling career of 23 years, I realized that inner conflict, for many peopleabout 1 in 4 (and in some categories of people the ratio is 2 of 3)is the undercurrent and cause of everything wrong in their lives, including their close relationships.
This discovery was so riveting, and the implications so profound, that I took on a determined investigation into inner conflict and focused on these components: 1) how it works, 2) what causes it, 3) how someone can identify itin themselves and others, and 4) how to resolve it. As I accumulated the clues and patterns of inner conflict, I was in disbelief that it seemed no one else had already taken on this investigation. I could find no other single body of work that focused on this phenomenon and its components. Finally, at one point, I made up my own name for it, Split-Circuitry Syndrome. As this series unfolds, you will see why I gave it that name, and I will reveal all four components of Split-Circuitry.
Here is the number 1 reason this series will be of interest to you: If you have inner conflict (or as I call it, Split-Circuitry), you will learn how to resolve it. I have done it with several thousand people, and here is a hint: it is an inner reconciliation. I simply call it integration. Now, it is extremely difficult to do without guidance. This series will give you that guidance. The gain for you is peace of mind and a positive experience of yourself. If you suffer from inner conflict, you already intimately know how valuable those two things are. Every person who has done this integration has said, “I finally feel peace!” And that is only the beginning of the benefits of resolving inner conflict. Relationships and your personal performance in many areas will dramatically improve, andmost importantlyso will your personal enjoyment of life.
Following are the patterns of inner conflict or split-circuitry that I have discovered so far. Not everyone exhibits them all. If you identify yourself in one or more of the patterns, you’ve got itkeep reading. If you don’t have any of these patterns, or you have a couple of mild ones, you don’t have to read on. However, you will recognize people in your life who strongly show one or more of the patterns. I suggest you read on to understand what they are experiencing because, if you are close to them, their difficulties impact you.
Now, everyone may occasionally experience mild versions of any of these. But if your life is dominated by any of these patterns, it can be very painful, and you will tremendously benefit from an integration.
If you followed my Project Butterfly Code series on this website, you already know some of the answers to these questions. Here is a link to the article covering it: Butterfly Code Part 3 . Read it before you go further.
The short version is this: Most everyone knows we have a left and right hemisphere to our brain. What almost no one knows is that each hemisphere is a completely independent personality that has its own likes, desires, and belief systems. Your right hemisphere is sub-conscious and your left hemisphere is your conscious mindthe one you consider you. In most people, the two hemispheres are fairly well integratedthey interact effectively, peacefully, and imperceptibly. But when they are not well-integrated, for reasons I will go into in the next article, they can conflict like stubborn siblings and cause no end of inner turmoil and pain, even suicide.
In order to heal this pain and conflict, you must first become good at self-reflexivenessbeing an observer of yourself, your behavior, and your thoughts.
Your right (subconscious) hemisphere controls your left forearm, hand, and fingers. Your left (conscious) hemisphere controls your right forearm, hand, and fingers. When people are talking from their left hemisphere, they will gesture mostly or only with their right hand. When people are communicating from their right hemisphere, they gesture with their left hand. If people are communicating from both hemispheres, in an integrated way, they will gesture with both hands.
Your task until the next article is to discover for yourself which hemisphere you favor by noticing your conversational gestures (or ask someone to watch you). Notice about the conversational gesturing of others, as well. This is needed groundwork for the next step in resolving your inner conflict. Tell us what you discover by commenting on this article.
Next month, The Battle Within: Understanding How It Works and How It Gets Started
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He’s been called the “best coach on the planet,” and the “Master coach among the Masters….” Over the 23 years of his professional career, Mike Blackstone has been an executive coach, life coach, therapist, NLP master practitioner and trainer, teambuilding specialist, and seminar leader. He’s successfully worked with nearly 4,000 people, one-on-one, and delivered more than 350 programs in eight countries. But what trademarks his effectiveness, more than anything else, is his dedication, commitment, and compassion for people, and to teaching them the steps anyone can learn to master their own destiny.
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