Hello everyone. This is the first, “Fork in the Road”. I have sat here for about 3 weeks writing various versions of this draft with different themes, but until now, they just didn’t feel right. These are small supplementary articles that, hopefully, will let you get to know me better, and my approach to life.
Adversity–it’s all around us–and we all deal with it in a different way. My nature is strongly in tune with bending things to my will, and forcing my them into submission if they don’t. This is a very strong karma to overcome. My common sense and experience tells me that this just won’t work, but sometimes we want to accomplish certain things so badly, that we forget to look at the situation or goal. Instead, we run head-first into the issue without looking at the things that surround it. Impatience becomes our downfall. Here’s an example:
You wake up one morning, and feel like you can take on the world, then you realize that you woke up late and missed a very important appointment. Realizing this, you get yourself together and head out the door. You throw your stuff in the truck, and get ready to take off. But wait! Now your truck doesn’t start. This is nice. So now what do you do? You get a ride into work and get your day started. This is how today started for me. In the past, it would have driven me crazy. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not happy with the fact that today hasn’t flowed like I wanted….and therein lies the issue.
So what?! If you wait for outside conditions to change so you can be happy, you’re missing the point entirely. You have to be happy and experience joy just because you are happy and want to be joyful. So, by the same token, if you are sad, is it because you have allowed something to make you that way? More often than not, that is the case. The key word here, is “allowed”. If you allow things to get in your way, then that’s always going to happen. So, how do you overcome? How do you not let things get in the way? How do you remain unfettered? I can only tell you how I do it. I hope that this will be of some use to you, as you find your way along your own journey.
The first thing that I always try to remember, is that I couldn’t possibly be the first person that this has ever happened to in the course of human history. It doesn’t seem that way at times, but you have to think about the fact that we all share the same or similar experiences and that although the conditions of those experiences may not take exactly the same shape, they do sometimes share the same issue at heart.
The next thing for me to think about is that, no matter how seemingly impossible, it’s not insurmountable. We all have the ability to adapt and change and grow, and affect the world around us in a positive way. You just have to make the choice to do that. This is where being stubborn is of the most use to me. Countless times I have tried to accomplish things, and countless times I have failed, only to find that I have grown stronger and gained victories in other areas.
The third thing for me is to realize that I have gotten to where I am by being what I am. I have to trust that. If you don’t have some kind of faith in yourself, you’ll never be able to help others find faith in themselves.
Everything that happens to me, happens because I have to endure it–not just for my own growth–but so that I become stronger for those around me. It is my path, my karma, my calling. When I think of it in those terms, how can I possibly think that my problems are so big? They aren’t, and once that sinks in, I move past it again.
Trust yourself, and let the chips fall where they may. You’ll be surprised at just how much easier things are to deal with.