Put Fear Back Where It Belongs! By Dr Kathleen Pfaff
Lessons in fear can be difficult to identify and not easy to categorize its source. Yet, these lessons are an important aspect of our spiritual journey because they hold information about our past, and how it affects what is happening in the present and our future. To heal our fear we must look it in the eye and send it back from where it came… in the past.
All fear comes from the past. Any fear about the future is related to a fear from the past. Any fear in the present is something we have manifested from focusing on a past fear. We can be afraid of what may happen, of what could happen or a potential outcome from a situation. All of those fears will have some basis in the past. We can be afraid of the water, for example, because either you have almost drowned, saw someone else drown, been taught to fear the water by someone else who fears it, or any other negative experience you may have had with water. Those experiences become part of your mental programming which can paralyze you if you allow it.
Our fear may prevent us from ever going swimming, stepping onto a boat or being near large bodies of water even though logically and rationally there is nothing to fear. Typically we humans want to avoid these thoughts and feelings that may allow our fear to materialize, so we find alternative ways of coping (this can include: drinking it away or taking some other mind altering substances) to make the fear “temporarily go away.” You may make up a hundred excuses why you don’t go near water or you can keep very busy so you don’t have to think about it. But what happens when you go to sleep? Any reoccurring nightmares about water perhaps or, re-living the event that caused the fear in the first place?
The fear is still there with us. Finding the cause of the fear would help us to put it into perspective. We need to challenge the belief about why we fear this certain thing? What do we believe will happen if you confront the fear? What is the very worst thing that might happen if you face your Demon? “Well Dr Kathy, I could drown if I go in the water.” Yes, you might drown if you go alone and don’t yet know how to swim. But if you take all the precautions and think it through there is a much better chance that you won’t drown. Once you face the fear, you may still be uncomfortable around the water, but it won’t paralyze you any longer. You are no longer a “slave” to it.
“For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship. [ Or adoption], And by him we cry, “Abba, Father.” Romans 8:15
Until we identify our fear/s and discover its source it holds us captive, reminding us of a potential outcome that has not yet happened and may never will. We worry about the “coulda’s,” the “maybe’s” and the “what if’s”, rather than just facing the real issue dead on. All of our unresolved fears spill over into other parts of our life and can become a repetitive cycle. We are creating fear cycles with fearful thoughts (unaware of consciously), whose purpose is to bring our fear to light. Your spirit within knows what you need to overcome the fear. Without this understanding, our fears are a mystery that can create more fearful situations because “we attract what we fear.” Our fear can become like a magnet that draws situations to us that will reveal our fear. Without an understanding of why this is happening, we panic and lose control, forget the purpose of our journey, and our awareness is centered on our fear rather than the possible outcome. Whenever we avoid situations for reasons we do not understand except for an unnamed fear, we allow that fear to keep us paralyzed from growing spiritually and having some fun!
God will work with us to help identify our fears by allowing circumstances and situations to crop up that trigger your fear. You create them, he allows them to manifest. If that doesn’t work, he’ll remind you as you sleep, in dreams and nightmares. Those very triggers are signs that help us to discover the cause of our fear so that we can resolve it. It may feel like God is punishing you for some reason but in reality he is helping you to overcome the fear. You have all the tools you need, now its time to act on faith.
We are the children of God and he wants the best for us just as we would want the same for our children. If your child suffered from nightmares, wouldn’t you do everything in your power to help him overcome them. God doesn’t like to watch us suffer any more than we like watching our kids suffering. But God will not enable us to stay stuck, he will do what it takes to help you to conquer that fear from the past.
Each fear is like an open wound within the soul. The more control fear has, the more profound its impact on your life. Our fears represent times when we were powerless, out of control, had things happen to us that we could not prevent, suffered physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually. They are deep, and sometimes terrible wounds that also offer healing, peace, unconditional love and joy when we remember they come from the past and they can’t hurt us any longer unless we let them. Jesus came to set the captives free. Allow him at this time in your life, to heal the wounds that bind you.