The thing is about romance and falling in love, is it's a terrible thing to do from a distance. And distance can be anything, it can be someone's drug problem, which was my ex-boyfriend Jim's issue, or it can be their history of childhood abuse that keeps them emotionally distant because they never got therapy to deal with it at all, or it can be 15,000 miles (or however far it is between the US and New Zealand) and two oceans. In any event, distance is an obstacle.
Alas, I think I ruined something good, and now I'm sad. Oh well. Life just really, really sucks sometimes. That's about all I can say.