I don’t know if this actually counts as motivation… maybe motivation to be a better spouse or a better significant other?
My coworker posted this blog post on her Facebook page earlier this week and since then I’ve seen it pop up all over Pinterest and other social media sites. I mean, the post has 1,671 comments on it, so I guess it’s popular or something. I’m not sure.
If you haven’t read it or seen it yet, it’s called 16 Ways I Blew My Marriage , and it – you guessed it – goes through things that this guy would have done differently in an attempt to keep his marriage(s) from falling apart. But I think everything on the list is applicable to any relationship, really, and that maybe reading this now will help people from taking for granted those they care about the most. I’m not going to repost everything on the list, but I am going to share my three favorites:
A couple years ago Sean and I went to the rodeo with a couple that we’re friends with and as we were sitting in our seats waiting for the show to start I remember watching the guy interact with my friend. He couldn’t stop touching her in little ways – a hand on her knee while he talked, his arm around her shoulders, tucking a strand of hair behind her ears – he just wanted to be close to her, to know she was there with him. It was the sweetest thing. Sean and I still hold hands, albeit not as often as when we were first dating, but I think those little interactions are just as important as the big ones. They show your significant other that you still care.
I’ll be the very first to admit that I fall victim to this a lot. I am really good at pointing out when Sean didn’t do something. It’s not something that I’m proud of, but it’s something that I don’t even realize that I’m doing a lot of times. When I read this I really had to step back and go, “huh. I do that. all the time. I should probably stop…”
I emotionally shut down at a certain point when I’m upset. I pretty much just turn off and fold into myself and I try to ignore things until I end up just blowing up. It’s a super healthy way to deal with things, in case you were wondering. I can’t stand when Sean emotionally shuts down on me, however, despite the fact that I know I do it to him.
Here is an unrelated picture from our wedding. It may be 2 1/2 years old, but we are laughing and having the BEST time even though we were being forced to stand in the prom pose. You know, because we just got married and all.
One thing that he mentions in his article that I think Sean and I rock at is always having fun. I have the most fun when I’m with Sean, and he is my absolute best friend and partner in crime. So we win there.
Also an unrelated picture from our wedding. Except look how much fun we’re having!! We are dancing and laughing and being BEST FRIENDS FOR LIFE.
I’m not really sure what the point of this post is, I kind of went off on a tangent. I guess it’s all to say, you should always take your relationships seriously. And Sean, if you’re reading this, feel free to comment away on how great of a wife I am. I won’t mind at all.