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Rhoda Sommer

I've spent well over 30 years working with people and 28 years in private practice. I teach couples in continuing ed for the University of Pittsburgh to other therapists. As a social worker and a boomer I have a commitment to making the world a better place. I'm in love with ideas and this blog is... Full Bio
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Feeling Lost ? How to Carve a Niche for yourself in the World by Rhoda Sommer Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Many people arrive in my office and describe themselves as lost. Women whose kids have grown, men who decide to leave a criminal lifestyle behind, partners who allo ... Read on »
Women, Art and Authority: The Language of Exclusion by Rhoda Sommer Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex rhodasommer : Your relationship to Women in Art needs to be considered. This is reblogged because I find it thought provoking & important. Unfortunately I coul ... Read on »
Affairs, Infidelity & Getting Caught Stepping Out: Is it just the sex? by Rhoda Sommer Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Affairs & Infidelity are rarely as simple as someone was good while the other was bad. This is too simplistic an explanation but we all love it because it’s easier ... Read on »
Romance Relationships in the Workplace by Rhoda Sommer Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex I asked my friend Laurel Coppersmith M.S.W. to write a guest post because she has spent 25 years doing EAP work & 23 years in private practice. I respect her wi ... Read on »
Art & Therapy: Both Attend to the Part that’s Missing or Lopsided by Rhoda Sommer Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Improving self-awareness is often a key to success in psychotherapy. In sessions I often consider how someone is lopsided or what’s missing. Three of the art works ... Read on »
Passion, Announcing New Stress Page & 3rd New Website Design in 12 years by Rhoda Sommer Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Therapyideas.net has been up & running since 2003. This is it’s third reincarnation. When on the net it’s crucial to keep adapting & updating (just like aging over the d ... Read on »
Sex Matters!!! Stop Pretending it Doesn’t! by Rhoda Sommer Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Sex over the long haul is not mastered by many. Sex in America seems to be in the extremes, people are having it a lot or not at all. I’ve talked to many women over ... Read on »
My New Relationship with India; thinking about arranged marriages & beyond stereotypes by Rhoda Sommer Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex I spent 17 days in India which is a remarkable country. Our trip was unusual in spending many hours driving on bad roads to see the “real” India & our efforts were ... Read on »
Boundaries & How to do them by Rhoda Sommer Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Defenses @ Fort in India Boundaries require you to risk being uncomfortable. Every relationship is about respecting the differences. The differences will not be re ... Read on »
My 5th Anniversary of Blogging by Rhoda Sommer Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex It’s hard to believe I’ve been at this for five years. I’m passionate about my work with people and this is another outlet. So many of our friends are retiring & I ... Read on »
My work with Denial & the movie American Hustle by Rhoda Sommer Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Denial is illusions. Illusions are denial. They are comforting & seductive. Throughout the movie there is the refrain “Everybody believes what they want to believe” ... Read on »
Forgiveness, Betrayal & the novel Shantaram by Rhoda Sommer Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Never have I read a book where I bent so many page corners to remember the wisdom that lies within. It is rich in texture & authenticity from the very first page. T ... Read on »
Gratitude & the novel Behind the Beautiful Forevers by Rhoda Sommer Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday because it’s about gathering and gratitude. I’m in the business of self-reflection and taking time to think about what’s enough ... Read on »
Single, Dating & the movie Enough Said by Rhoda Sommer Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Single & dating means surviving the awkward beginnings of relationships over & over & over again. Beginnings are often the hardest part of many things but especiall ... Read on »
How to Live Better? by Rhoda Sommer Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex How to live better is a question we all should continue to ask ourselves. Aging well depends on updating your answers every year instead of maintaining the status q ... Read on »
Relationships, Communication & Sharing Power by Rhoda Sommer Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Think about all the arguing couples you know and ask yourself, how many of them are good at sharing power? There are many couples where one person caters to the oth ... Read on »
Self-Esteem & the movie The Way, Way Back by Rhoda Sommer Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Self esteem starts to “bake” in adolescence. It’s part of why adolescence can feel so tragic because there is such a slim grip on feeling ok. I was moved by the raw ... Read on »
Couples Fighting & the Movie Before Midnight by Rhoda Sommer Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex This movie offers a glimpse of real life in the fighting between Ethan Hawke & Julie Delpy after 20 years of being together. In the first 6 to 9 years there is a lo ... Read on »
Authenticity Requires Work by Rhoda Sommer Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex At Chautauqua we hear lectures on vacation; David Brooks spoke about the lack of depth & inner dialogue that he finds is part of today’s youth culture because there ... Read on »
Relationships in Addictions (Understanding Codependency Works Both Ways) by Rhoda Sommer Posted in: Blog Posts in Relationships & Sex Relationships with an addictive partner often have a pattern that both partners create together. The non-addict has an enormous number of expectations with so many id ... Read on »