You must learn day by day, year by year, to broaden your horizon. The more things you love, the more you are interested in, the more you enjoy, the more you are indignant about, the more you have left when anything happens. ~ Ethel Barrymore
When we give up our interests or fail to cultivate any, when we give up our friends or fail to cultivate any, when we give up our goals or fail to cultivate any, we have nothing of substance when the worst thing in the world happens.
When our life is consumed by a bad relationship, an deadend job, overly dependent and needy people, ungrateful relations, it becomes very narrow. If we are left by our lover, fired by our boss or disowned by our family we have nothing left. Therefore we cling to the bad lover, the bad job, the dysfunctional family. To let them go, or to allow them to let us go, leaves us with nothing.
In order to be “okay” in the face of adversity, it is important to have our own interests, our own friends, our own “me” time, our own places to go. It doesn’t have to be elaborate or grand, but it must be ours.
If you do not have your own interests, start to cultivate them. If you have neglected your friends, rekindle the relationships. If you have not had “me” time or “alone” time in a long time, take it.