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When Financial Infidelity is a Sign of Sexual Infidelity

Posted Aug 26 2008 4:19pm
Though neither of the two landmark studies on financial infidelity mentioned it, financial infidelity can often be a sign of sexual or marital infidelity. If both parties in the marriage or relationship have freely shared financial information in the past, and one party (usually it’s the man) suddenly becomes secretive about money matters or begins withholding information about spending habits, it’s usually a sign of sexual infidelity.



When Men are Financially Deceptive



If a man is involved in an extramarital affair, sooner or later it will be reflected in the family finances. A cheating husband will resort to financial infidelity so he can cover up the fact that he’s spending money on his mistress. Affairs cost money. If he’s wining and dining the Other Woman, and buying her gifts, he’s certainly not going to be honest and above board about these changes in his spending habits.



When Women are Financially Deceptive



Women can also be financially deceptive. However, many times a woman’s financial infidelity is directly related to sexual infidelity on the part of her husband. If a woman suspects or has found out that her husband is cheating on her or having an extramarital affair, she may start putting money aside in order to financially protect herself and the children. This is especially true if she’s preparing for divorce, or feels that her husband may be planning to surprise her with divorce papers. A wife’s financial infidelity will often take the form of siphoning off small sums of money from the household budget or joint bank accounts.



NOTE: If you find that your spouse or significant other’s financial infidelity is related to sexual infidelity, you might want to request my free tip sheet entitled How Wives with Cheating Husbands Can Gain the Upper Hand . There’s a condensed version posted on the website, but you can get a free copy of the detailed version by e-mailing InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with the words “ Upper Hand-b” in the subject line.



Financial Deception Can Indicate Other Problems



Financial infidelity is not always a sign of sexual infidelity, but it’s usually an indication of some type of problem in the relationship. It could be anything from a communication problem between the couple, to a gambling problem or substance abuse (drug or alcohol) problem on the part of the one withholding information about his or her spending habits or financial matters. One thing is certain, however; financial infidelity is usually just the tip of the iceberg.



Financial deception can also be an indication of other kinds of deception. A person who can’t be honest with his or her marriage mate or significant other about financial affairs, may be dishonest about other important areas as well. If you stumble across signs of financial infidelity in your relationship, you definitely need to take a closer look.



For a free tip sheet which lists 9 Signs of Financial Infidelity , e-mail InfidelityInfo@gmail.com with “financial-b2” in the subject line. The signs in this tip sheet are taken from Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (Lifestyle Publications, $29.95) which lists 52 financially-related signs of infidelity in the chapter on Financial Affairs.





For more information about the link between financial infidelity and sexual infidelity or marital infidelity, checkout the article entitled Financial Infidelity Often Accompanies Sexual Infidelity posted on my website at www.InfidelityAdvice.com





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