Figuring out your sexuality can be a tricky process. Many people have feelings towards other people of the same sex. However, having these thoughts and feelings does not necessarily mean that you are gay. Having feelings, or fantasies, about someone of the same sex can be part of the process of figuring out who you are, and it's not something you should be worried or embarrassed about.
Knowing whether you're gay is not something you can always work out right away. Your sexual identity usually develops over time. For some people, being gay is something they work out from an early age. For others, it can take much longer, and you may not fully realize and understand your feelings until later in life. This is not something to be concerned about. Learning about your feelings and desires is an ongoing process and isn't something you have to rush. Taking your time to figure out your sexuality is perfectly normal.
Talk to someone
For some people, having feelings towards those of the same sex can be intense, alienating and confusing. It's important to know that you're not alone in feeling this way. You may find it helpful to talk to a trusted friend, or family member, about how you're feeling.
However, if you don't feel comfortable doing this, you may prefer to contact one of the many support groups and organizations that deal with issues of sexuality. They will be able to provide you with helpful advice and support if you're struggling to deal with your feelings. You could also visit your local library or book shop. There are lots of books, magazines and leaflets that you could look through to help you make sense of your feelings.
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