Some time ago a friend of mine married a guy who is not of her faith. I was rather surprised. She is, by most standards, very active in her faith. She goes to church most Sundays, she attends mid-week meetings for her women's group, she even does a little bit of missionary work. But she married someone not of her faith.
Corey over at The Simple Marriage Project recently did an article on Growing Deeper Spiritually and it got me thinking. You see, I am deeply religious and find it very gratifying. I think everyone needs to be spiritually aware. I think that most of modern society's problems stem from not being in touch with their spirits and the being who created them.
Now, personally, I am Christian. I do think, however, that there is a great deal of worth in many different religions. One of the best men that I know is a Buddhist, and I think that people of all faiths bring their wisdom to the table in different ways.
Why is religion important to your marriage?
- The spiritual life is central to all life. Without taking care of your spirit, you cannot be centered and balanced in life. Your spirit is the very essence of who you are and needs to be fed.
- Common goals and aspirations. Those who hold the same religious beliefs have common goals inspired by those beliefs. As you draw closer to those goals, you naturally draw closer to each other.
- Ritual. There is something deeply important about rituals. Most people have their morning rituals (coffee, check the news, etc). How much more important are spiritual rituals?
- Harmony with extended family. Perhaps not a reason to pick a religion, but certainly something to consider when you considering marriage. Can you get along with those in-laws - Can they tolerate you and your beliefs?
If you don't have the same religious beliefs, then you don't have the same basic beliefs about life - the nature of being, what moral path to follow, how to raise children, how to behave on holy days, the list goes on and on. Granted, religious beliefs are a deeply personal decision, but to me that just means that you should be even more encouraged to find someone with similar beliefs.
Take advantage of the new poll to the right of the page. I'm interested to know how religion plays into your lives.