Well let me tell you, gentle readers, where I’ve been. I left NYC at 3 am bound for Pittsburgh, worked all day at a client’s site and just got home now (9 pm NY time). I have lots and lots of “stuff” to do and to write and to reply to….a few of you asked if the seminar is still open and because I have been traveling: it is! I’ve answered some of you, but if you want to register, okay ‘k ‘k, I am definitely closing it on Thursday night. Big day of lawyering tomorrow so I will not get to the registrations until tomorrow night and I’m tired so I want to go to bed so I can get up at 4 and do it all over again (only this time all in NY). So I will definitely close it tomorrow night.
Anyway, I read through some of the comments and will get to answer a bunch of them over the next few days but Sunshine asked in the Wherever You Go thread if the distraction is about a break from the grief and is it necessary.
The answer is: Yes and no. GPYP is about being good to you and setting goals and doing affirmations and taking time out to be good to you (spend time with you etc) as a balance to the deep, difficult work. Therefore, if you do THAT, the negative/unhealthy distractions are less likely to rear their ugly heads. If you have questions about that, let me know. You can comment here or back on there.
Alex, your gf did not get off a racehorse as far as I can see. She might have some things to work out, but that a racehorse does not make. BE GOOD TO ALEX.
Urthgrl: I think it’s a bit of both. I think it’s important to make our spaces ours and it takes money to do that sometimes. But if you’re journaling and “self-checking” you can figure out the difference between spending too much. When I was single I made my bedroom my room…my sanctuary, my space. I would save up for things like nice comforters and stuff but I would definitely try to save money on wall hangings…nice without going for the $4000.00 painting. So it’s a balance. (as usual!) Be good to you without becoming too distracted. Stay in touch with what you’re doing and why you’re doing it!
I know there’s lots more to respond to and I will get to many more, but I wanted to get those out before I hit the pillow and to say thank you to everyone for caring for each other on the days when I am away. I appreciate it very much.
And thank you to the Getting Past Your Breakup email group co-mods and the Women Who Love Too Much co-mod for holding down those forts in my absence. Great job!
And seminar participants: information by Friday night. PROMISE! Nighty nite!!!!