A Dating Tales reader stopped by to talk about her doctor dating woes, and she wants our advice.
Here’s her dilemma:
Hey guys, I am in serious need of advice. I am dating a doctor, and YES he is CUTE and adorable. To be honest he is everything i have ever wanted in a man.
Unfortunately, I love attention a bit too much. He is always busy. Our conversations are always rushed, he’s always on call or preparing for a presentation. I am very patient but lately I have been having major tantrums.
The thought of turning up to weddings and engagement parties on my own is daunting. It makes me sad coz i love him and miss him so much.
NOW does this mean he doesnt care? Can he turn down a call to spend time with me or am i being totally unreasonable? Just how busy are doctors? When we do meet up all he talks about is presentations and exams.
I hate meeting up with my friends who have boyfriends coz mine is never there HELP
Here are my two cents. Repeat after me: Dating a doctor is like dating a workaholic slash egomaniac. He’s not going to change, nor should he. He worked his butt off to get where he is and I’m guessing that he has so much invested in his career that very little will interfere with that.
Yes, doctors really are that busy and I’m sure he could turn down a call from time to time, but he probably doesn’t feel like it’s the right thing to do.
In a way, it’s admirable. I mean, I don’t have anything in my life that I would drop everything for.
On the other hand, I completely know how you feel. It really stinks to be lonely when you are not alone. I’ve been in relationships where I went alone to parties and spent half my night explaining why he wasn’t with me. It sucks. No one likes it.
My advice to you is to be honest with yourself about what you need. If what you need is lots of one-on-one time and a constant date to any social function, then dating a doctor is probably not for you. But if you can be patient with him and confident enough to go out on your own, then he’s worth it.
Alright, now it’s time for everyone else to vote on it. Are doctors really that busy?
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