Give up control of your tools if you do not want to do all repairs yourself. If things get scattered, discuss boundaries that will suit both of you.
In this case, maintaining control often means not getting any help. If you want your partner’s help on a project, you may have to relax a bit. Your partner may have different standards than you do for the care and maintenance of your things. If this is a problem for you, teach your partner, very specifically, what you would like to have done with your things. This process could apply to computers and other office equipment, hobby equipment, or even kitchen supplies and equipment.
Your weekly assignment, should you choose to accept it:
Invite your partner to tour your workshop, toolbox, kitchen cabinets, etc. Explain how you have organized your things and under what conditions your partner may use them. Ask if your partner is willing to comply with your conditions. If your conditions don’t work for your partner, keep negotiating until you find something that does.
This is an excerpt from Being Happy Together: How to Have a Fabulous Relationship With Your Life Partner in Less Than an Hour a Week, by Laurie Weiss, Ph.D.
Technorati Tags: Relationship Advice, Relationships, Communication, Boundaries
Give up control of your tools if you do not want to do all repairs yourself. If things get scattered, discuss boundaries that will suit both of you.
In this case, maintaining control often means not getting any help. If you want your partner’s help on a project, you may have to relax a bit. Your partner may have different standards than you do for the care and maintenance of your things. If this is a problem for you, teach your partner, very specifically, what you would like to have done with your things. This process could apply to computers and other office equipment, hobby equipment, or even kitchen supplies and equipment.
Your weekly assignment, should you choose to accept it:
Invite your partner to tour your workshop, toolbox, kitchen cabinets, etc. Explain how you have organized your things and under what conditions your partner may use them. Ask if your partner is willing to comply with your conditions. If your conditions don’t work for your partner, keep negotiating until you find something that does.
This is an excerpt from Being Happy Together: How to Have a Fabulous Relationship With Your Life Partner in Less Than an Hour a Week, by Laurie Weiss, Ph.D.
Technorati Tags: Relationship Advice, Relationships, Communication, Boundaries