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Stop Sh**ing On Yourself

Posted Apr 22 2011 12:00am


Happy Friday, loves. What a glorious day it has been. This morning I woke up to find that PSG had been featured as one of the editors’ picks of the day on bloggers.com…a lovely surprise! There’s nothing like a little positive reinforcement to kick motivation into overdrive. I am truly grateful for all the love and support that I have received since I started this blog, from friends, family, and complete strangers (so cool!!). Speaking of being grateful, I’ve been thinking a lot this week about the next steps in life and taking more chances career wise. I’ve always been (and always will be) a goal-oriented person. As such, I find it important to be very aware of the manner by which I go about thinking about these next steps. It is easy to get so caught up in what we should be doing, that we forget to show gratitude for what we already have. Being aware of what you want out of life is a tremendously wonderful thing. However, when we don’t get exactly what we want, when we want it, we can easily start to feel backed up against the proverbial wall. And what do we usually start to do when feeling backed up? We start should-ing….and should-ing, and should-ing “I should be at _____ level in my career.”
“I should be married/in a serious relationship.” (Always a popular one with the single gals)
“I should be more outgoing, well known, successful.”
Quite frankly, if you keep should-ing all over yourself like that, you’ll end up with a big ol’ fat mess…in your head: confusion, second guessing, self-blame, and many of the monsters discussed previously will start to surface. Put away the TP, here at PSG, we’ve devised a way to help clean the should up once and for all. Learn to stop should-ing on yourself with the 3 Gs: Gratitude, Genuineness, and Growth

Gratitude- Embrace the idea of being thankful. In life you have to stop and smell the roses. There are always one or two lying around somewhere that you may have forgotten about. It can be as simple as being thankful for the strength to wake up and conquer another day. It is possible to find gratitude in virtually every aspect/situation in life. What are you grateful for?

Genuineness- Focus on being the most genuine version of you that you can be. Reassess your goals, and be sure that what you want out of your life is truly what you want, and not based on the expectations of another (or trying to mimic another). We are happier, healthier people when we realize that the person we are at this very moment is special, is enough, and is worthy of love, compassion, and greatness. What do you love about you?

Growth- As human beings we are geared toward personal growth. Putting yourself out there by means of education, networking, or trying new things are great ways to do so. I challenge you to start the growth process by enhancing your inner self. Yes, I’m about to go on another inner dialogue rant. It is oh so important! Returning back to the topic of dumping on ourselves, saying that you should be doing something is ineffective and produces more anxiety and guilt than anything else. What to do instead you ask? Well, saying that you will do something is a great alternative. The word “will” is made up of key properties and nutrients for the soul (ie. hope, motivation) that will help keep the constant should-ing at bay. When does your endless should-ing start to flare up?
My dear readers, if you walk away with nothing else, know that Should-ing is a waste. Let’s work hard to keep the waste where it belongs
Have a gloriously good Good Friday!
xo
~M

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