When a relationship has reached the point where your ex is telling you over and over that they need space its often an indication that you need to get more of a life. At this point it isn’t helpful to send them letters, think of ways that you can show them you’ve changed or ask for time to “talk”. You need to focus on yourself and your life. And you need to give yourself permission to do this.
We’ve all made mistakes. We all have regrets. But to live life constantly sifting through our losses, regrets and mistakes is a sure way to go nowhere except into depression and inertia. And no, you aren’t ruining your chances of your ex coming back. Most people want a whole healthy person, full of interests and ideas, things they are passionate about, and an energetic . Coming out of your shell of grief might get you back to the person that they were originally attracted to.
This blog talks about how one person finally started to move on. By giving himself permission.