Should You Take a Cheater Back? – Here’s How to Decide

Under what circumstances should you take a cheater back? How do you decide whether or not to give a cheating spouse or significant other a second chance? It depends on the circumstances under which the cheating occurred, and the cheater’s attitude about the affair.



When to Consider Giving the Cheater a Second Chance



If the cheater is genuinely sorry, has severed all ties with the Other Woman or the Other Man, and is willing to fully cooperate and do the hard work necessary to restore the relationship and rebuild the broken trust, then you might want to consider taking the cheater back and giving him or her a second chance if the infidelity occurred under the following circumstances:



• As an isolated incident, such as a one night stand.

• Under the influence of drugs or alcohol.

• While going through a midlife crisis.

• As a misguided response to a life crisis such as the death of a loved one or the loss of a job.

• In cases of sexual addiction, where the cheater is seeking, or willing to seek medical or professional help.



But forgiveness shouldn’t be handed over on a silver platter. It’s something you need to make the cheater earn. Otherwise, you’re only setting the stage for the cheating to happen again.



When NOT to Give the Cheater a Second Chance



It’s probably not a good idea to give the cheater a second chance if he or she:



• Refuses to sever ties with the Other Woman or the Other Man

• Continues to lie about any aspect of the affair

• Is a habitual or serial cheater who has had one or more affairs in the past

• Feels no guilt or remorse for having hurt his/her partner;

• Wants to sweep the affair under the rug and proceed as if nothing has happened

• Feels he or she has a right to cheat or have an extramarital affair

• Does not feel that the cheating was wrong

• Is a sex addict who refuses to seek help



Other Factors to Consider When Deciding if You Should Take a Cheater Back



In addition to the circumstances of the cheating and the cheater’s attitude about the affair, there are several other factors you should take into consideration:



• the type of infidelity

• what stage the affair is in

• the degree of the cheater’s emotional attachment to the Other Woman or the Other Man

• the cheater’s feelings about infidelity in general

• the cheater’s level of commitment to you and to your marriage or relationship,



NOTE:For more information about taking a cheater back, see the article posted onhttp://www.infidelityadvice.com/entitled:When Should You Give a Cheater a Second Chance?





A Major Obstacle to Taking the Cheater Back



The biggest obstacle to taking a cheating spouse or significant other back is the fear that the cheater will cheat on you again. It’s a valid fear and the only way to overcome it is to become thoroughly familiar with both the obvious and not-so-obvious signs of infidelity. This way, you’ll know right away if the cheating is still going on, or if the cheater is on the verge of cheating again.



Since most of the signs are subtle, knowing what to look for is the key.Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signscovers practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook. Despite the title, most of the signs in the book apply to both cheating woman and cheating men. The signs are conveniently grouped into 21 major categories, so you can easily find the signs that apply to your mate.



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Affair Recovery Help in the E-book version ofIs He Cheating on You?



The e-book version ofIs He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signsavailable for $37 fromhttp://www.booklocker.com/books/1755.htmlcomes with a bonus section that will be especially helpful if you decide to take back your cheating mate. In addition to 3 other special reports, and a special section for men entitledIs SHE Cheating, the bonus section also contains the following affair recovery information:



• What the Two of You Must Do to Survive Your Husband’s Affair

• Advice for the Husband Who Cheated

• Advice for the Betrayed Wife

• Can Your Marriage Survive His Affair?

• Will He Cheat Again?



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