Janie, a bachelorette, travels constantly on business. After a long day of intense sales calls, she retires to her room where she eats alone, checks e-mail, and prepares for the next day’s work.
By the end of the evening, she’s too edgy to sleep and a little lonely. She could saunter down to the lobby bar, but the thought ofpicking up a strangerhas little appeal in today’s world of dangerous STDs.
She could call one of the men she dates from time to time, but doesn’t want to come across as needy. She could watch a pay-for-view movie ADULT movie, but doesn’t want to explain that charge to her employer.
Faced with those alternatives, she often ends the day snuggled up in bed with her laptop. She reads an erotic e-book by a favorite author. With one hand on the keyboard and the other under the covers, she gives herself some well-deserved “personal time.”
Afterwards, she sleeps like a baby.
Nathan and Brihave a great sex life, and Nathan’s as crazy in love with his wife as the day they married three years ago. Even so, he has fantasies of a threesome involving Bri, him, and another woman. In his favorite fantasy, Bri and the other woman begin kissing while he watches.
One thing leads to another and soon thewomen are naked on the floor, making love. After they’ve driven each other over the edge, the two women turn their attention to him.
So far, Nathan has refrained from sharing his fantasy with Bri, because he knows she’s strictly a one-man woman.
But once a week, when she’s out with her friends, he indulges himself with a box of Kleenex, a favorite lubricant, and a visit to a website featuringerotic stories about threesomes. He prefers the slow build-up and exotic settings offered by the stories to video porn’s bright lights, close-up shots, and predictability.
In the back of his mind, he harbors the hope that Bri will some day turn his fantasy into reality.
Katie and Patrick have been together for four years. They’re in a committed relationship, but Katie has come to realize that sheneeds more sexthan Patrick.
He’s pre-occupied with starting a new business and happy with their twice a week routine. For her part, she’d prefer atrip down the “O” highwayevery day.
She’s not opposed to a furtive moment alone in the shower or a solitary fling on the day bed before Patrick returns home from work. But what works best for Katie is curling up in front of the fire or in the chaise lounge with a steamy period romance and a favorite vibrator.
Call it what you like, it’s something we all do. In fact, Kinsey Institute research shows that 90 percent ofallmen over the age of 18 “toss one off” on a regular basis, while 65 percent ofallwomen “rub one out” now and then.
The percentages are lower for married couples, but aPlayboysurvey found that 72 percent ofmarried men masturbate, while aRedbooksurvey revealed that 68 percent of married women join in the fun.
Yet, when confronted with these percentages, many people are embarrassed to admit that they aren’t much different from everyone else when it comes to self pleasure.
Furthermore, even if we confess to an occasional personal dalliance, we’re likely to characterize it as a “moment of weakness.” In the words of the old “Seinfeld” episode, we take pride in being “masters of our own domain.”