Our goals can only be reached through a vehicle of a plan, in which we must fervently believe, and upon which we must vigorously act. There is no other route to success. ~ Stephen A. Brennan
This is the time of year for “resolutions.” But we here know that a resolution said once is nothing more than a wish. And it usually doesn’t happen. As the GPYB book talks about, setting goals is the way to achieve the things you want. It talks about setting goals in different areas of your life and balancing it all out.
Getting past a relationship involves changing the person you are into the person you were meant to be. Concentrating on YOUR life instead of pining over the lost love. This is IMPORTANT. Paying attention to your own life is very important. (long-time readers and readers of the book can share what they’re doing and how).
The most important thing about changing your life is setting goals. Goal setting works best when you have long term goals and short terms goals in different areas. You do not need goals in every area but pick a few different ones to keep you interested. Your goal list might look something like this:
- Leisurely learning: setting a goal to read x books in x time or learning more about a subject you’ve always been interested in.
- Physical: diet and exercise
- Fun goals such as learning a new sport, taking a recreational class or taking up a new hobby.
Look at the list and think about setting goals for yourself in 3 or 4 very different areas and make sure you include one fun goal.
Use your journal to figure out which goals are most important for you and which ones are not so important.
When you have picked your 3 or 4 areas write down the goals you have for yourself in those areas and decide which one to work with first.
There might be some goals that are easy to achieve. For example, suppose you’ve always wanted to take a painting class. You can call up a local community college or craft store and find out if there will be a painting class. When you find out, sign up and attend! That is all there is to it.
For other goals, such as saving money or changing careers, achieving the goals will not be so simple. Therefore you will to set a series of short term goals to meet the long term goal.
The first thing to do with a long term goal is to figure out if it’s realistic—don’t set the bar too high or too low—then you’re going to break it down into manageable steps. For example, if you want to save $2000 by next year you can look at your income and your budget and figure out how much you need to save each week. You need to forecast for an entire year and then put the things into place that will help you achieve your short term goal ($x each week) and your long term goal ($2000 by next year). You have to be realistic and you have to be practical. The goal should not be too easy or too hard to attain. You have to have the satisfaction of knowing that you’re working toward goals without having them feel overbearing.
If you set your goals too low it doesn’t feel good when we achieve them but if we set them too high we are setting ourselves up for failure.
Define your goals carefully and commit to doing what you need to do to achieve them.
You need to visualize yourself achieving your goal. You need to spend time each day visualizing your goals coming true and examining your short-term goals to see if you are on your way to getting there.
Set definitive and realistic goals. Set some goals that are easy to achieve and some that will require hard work and commitment. For the long term goals set it all down on paper and figure out the short term goals you need to meet and the time frame in which you need to meet them.
Don’t let anything keep you from achieving what you know you can achieve.
Commit to yourself and to your goals. Each and every day. It can be done.