Healthy relationships can be simply defined by 3 virtues that must be present in concert together in order to produce a healthy and meaningful relationship. Let's define these 3 wonderful virtues:
a. Love – unconditional acts of kindness or generosity that do not require any response.
b. Respect – The ability to appreciate and bring out the unique qualities of another person while placing value on their opinions and abilities.
c. Honesty – The act of telling the truth and ascertaining the truth about you. (introspection)
Caveat – Physical, sexual, and emotional abuse are always wrong and never justified.
With the introduction of these virtues, persons also need to know that there will be times when they will violate these and will need to take action steps to repair the relationship. The first key step is - Atonement - a crucial element to the healing process because all of us hurt others in our relationships. Atonement consists of one taking responsibility for acting in an unloving, disrespectful, and/or dishonest way and performing an action to demonstrate this sorrow. (apologies, acts of charity, and any act to demonstrate the virtue that was broken).
There will be relationship problems when the virtues of love, respect, and honesty are not evaluated or atoned for when broken. Communication about these kinds of virtues will fade away if couples are not cognizant of them on a daily basis and dysfunctional communication ensues. (personal attacks, cold war, abuse, alcohol and drug consumption, negative messages, depression, codependency, and pursuing moral relativistic themes)
Now that we have a better understanding of different kinds of hurt and the factors that contribute to irrational thoughts from my last post, we must now look at how this has impacted your relationship and how you can incorporate the virtues of love, respect, and honesty to heal your relationships.
This is a start to the introspection work that will be needed to begin to recognize and repair the hurt that is caused in relationships. This will help you in developing a road map to heal your relationships and act in healthy and meaningful ways.
Labels: atonement, honesty, intimate relationships, love, Relationship Advice, respect
Healthy relationships can be simply defined by 3 virtues that must be present in concert together in order to produce a healthy and meaningful relationship. Let's define these 3 wonderful virtues:
a. Love – unconditional acts of kindness or generosity that do not require any response.
b. Respect – The ability to appreciate and bring out the unique qualities of another person while placing value on their opinions and abilities.
c. Honesty – The act of telling the truth and ascertaining the truth about you. (introspection)
Caveat – Physical, sexual, and emotional abuse are always wrong and never justified.
With the introduction of these virtues, persons also need to know that there will be times when they will violate these and will need to take action steps to repair the relationship. The first key step is - Atonement - a crucial element to the healing process because all of us hurt others in our relationships. Atonement consists of one taking responsibility for acting in an unloving, disrespectful, and/or dishonest way and performing an action to demonstrate this sorrow. (apologies, acts of charity, and any act to demonstrate the virtue that was broken).
There will be relationship problems when the virtues of love, respect, and honesty are not evaluated or atoned for when broken. Communication about these kinds of virtues will fade away if couples are not cognizant of them on a daily basis and dysfunctional communication ensues. (personal attacks, cold war, abuse, alcohol and drug consumption, negative messages, depression, codependency, and pursuing moral relativistic themes)
Now that we have a better understanding of different kinds of hurt and the factors that contribute to irrational thoughts from my last post, we must now look at how this has impacted your relationship and how you can incorporate the virtues of love, respect, and honesty to heal your relationships.
This is a start to the introspection work that will be needed to begin to recognize and repair the hurt that is caused in relationships. This will help you in developing a road map to heal your relationships and act in healthy and meaningful ways.
Labels: atonement, honesty, intimate relationships, love, Relationship Advice, respect