Phil asks: I suspect that I am probably one of your Mr Unavailable's and you'd probably even call me an 'assclown' but I thought I would email you because whilst I understand why you say the things that you do about men like me, I still think that women get an easy ride. Take my ex for instance - well I call her my ex but she thinks we're still together. NML, I have TOLD her that this isn't going to happen. I have said I don't want a relationship. I have said that we will never go beyond something very casual and that I don't want to mislead her. She won't leave me alone! She's always there, she's calling me, emailing me, texting me, whatever and I admit that because I have told her what the score is, I have been sleeping with her. Does that make me an assclown? In my defence, she just won't stop pushing herself on me and whilst I recognise that I could just say no, it's almost not worth the earache. I'm 34, separated for the past year, and to be honest, I am barely out of my marriage and I don't see myself wanting to be tied down with someone for a while. So tell me, what should I do because I have told her, I have hinted, and I know that I haven't treated her very well, and she's still there? Also, does this make me an 'assclown'?