I've just come out of an 8 year relationship, main issues having been him lying about petty/serious things for years (I allowed him to convince me he would change). 3 months before our wedding, this june, I found out he was having an affair. I've broken off the relationship, and travelled back to london (where i'm at uni at the moment), cut off all contact (changed email address, phone no. etc). He somehow found my phone number, and has been contacting me - and I, like an idiot have started responding- if only to say 'dont contact me', which is defeating in itself.