Sylvia asks"I've been reading your blog for a while, and always avoiding having the courage to admit I was dealing with an emotionally unavailable man..well, after 2 years, the "next big thing" happened and I knew what I had to do. It hasn't been easing staying away and sticking to no contact. We left it over a phone conversation where once again he was telling me the he liked me but maybe it wasn't enough, and that most of the time he just couldn't be bothered to be in a relationship. I finished that conversation saying "you need to think, i'm not putting up with this once again", and we've had no contact since. He hasn't attempted to, and I certainly won't either because I can now see he will never change unless he wants to, he'll never stick to his promises or step up to the plate and act as a proper boyfriend. So yes, I've had enough and am now considering myself single, focusing on doing things I love, for me, and stop thinking about him.
Not easy, but your blog has helped a lot.
Now this is where I need your advice: this guy works with me.
He has been away for work reasons, and I haven't had to see him yet, but he'll be back soon, and I'm gonna have to hear him, see him, and I'm just not sure how to handle it. What is your advice? I don't work very directly with him, as we're in different dpts, so we won't be having meetings together for example, but he will be sitting in my open plan floor, and we'll be using the same coffee machine, photocopy machine, canteen, etc. How can I stay strong and make sure I stick to no contact if I'm gonna have to see him 8hours a day? I'm sure when he's back in the country is when he's gonna try to get me again and be charming and do all those cute things that got me back every time before."