Primer Magazine is running a feature on an old newspaper clipping that has been circulating the internet for years called The Good Wife’s Guide. It’s an old school take on how wives are “supposed to” behave. It’s positively medieval in some places, but I think a lot of it is not far off. There’s nothing wrong at all with having dinner ready and looking nice - as long as you have time and your husband is good to you as well. I’d be interested in knowing what you think about it.
My favorite bits of advice from Primer’s article: men should realize that her life is just as important as his, and it’s important for men to be honest.
Also, over at Simple Marriage Project, there’s a discussion going on about Steve Pavlina’s decision to enter a polyamorous relationship with his wife (read: he’s convinced his wife that it’s okay for him to cheat on her, and her to do likewise). Corey asks what people’s Big Idea is about marriage.
Personally, I think that Corey’s picture at the top of the post says it all: I am yours.
Marriage is sacred. There’s no getting around it, there’s no justifying otherwise, there’s no reason to excuse infidelity. Marriage is the most important social convention (indeed, holy covenant) that we have, and the best way to raise a family.
To my wife: I am yours, and I promise to be only yours for all eternity.
Old traditions of marriage defined the way women were supposed to behave in domestic matters. New traditions are breaking down the boundaries of sexual purity. Where do you turn to figure out what is appropriate in your marriage and in your life in general?