Any change, any loss, does not make us victims. Others can shake you, surprise you, disappoint you, but they can’t prevent you from acting, from taking the situation you’re presented with and moving on. No matter where you are in life, no matter what your situation, you can always do something. You always have a choice and the choice can be power. -Blaine Lee
We decide whether or not a hurt, a loss, a change in circumstance is going to keep us down. It is normal and healthy to feel horrible after a loss or an unexpected and unwelcome change. We must do our work which involves crying, being angry, feeling depressed, unenergetic, hazy, forgetful, etc. But at some point we need to turn to the work of moving on…we need to MAKE A DECISION that it is time to move on.
We’ve done our crying, we’ve gotten angry, we’ve walked the floors at night, journaled our heart out, talked to friends until we can no longer stand the sound of our own voice, taken days off from work just to take to bed and pull the covers over our head, stopped going to the gym, eaten all the wrong things, drank to excess, slept with the wrong people ETCETERA ETCETERA.
Now it is time to say “NO MORE” and move toward turning the page to the next chapter. This is the time where it behooves us to wake up each day with a new determination. Get back to the gym, stop drinking, smoking or prowling for a warm body or wishing and hoping that your ex will come back (puleese).
It’s time to step back and cleanse the heart and soul and body.
It is time to DECIDE to eat healthy, think heathy and be healthy. Decide to turn the page and move on. Define new goals, short term and long term and start putting life back into perspective.
The turning point of grieving comes after a long time of feeling the feelings, but it doesn’t just show up one day, you need to decide it’s time to move on otherwise you run the risk of becoming stuck in the hurt and the pain.
If you are in that place, turn the page, decide to move on…and then move on.