Apparently they resent the fact that the campaign centers exclusively on cheating men. They’re complaining that men have been unfairly targeted as “summer cheats” since the Campaign excludes cheating women.
As part of my annual Summer Infidelity Awareness Campaign, I have compiled a tip sheet telling wives how to spot the signs of summer infidelity, and how to short-circuit or prevent their husband's summer affair.
Numerous men accused me of creating paranoia, suspicion or distrust among women. (I’m merely alerting women to the telltale signs of something that may already be going on. Unless you’re having, or planning to have a summer fling, you have nothing to worry about.)
In his blog entry entitled, Insulting to Men and Women Alike , blogger Jeff Fecke commented at length on the Newsday summer infidelity article, calling it “overwrought tripe, and referring to myself and the other authors and experts Pat quoted as “fear-mongers”
Even the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy found that men are more likely to be tempted than women, reporting that between 50 % and 60% of married men engage in extramarital affairs.
My observations about infidelity are based on thousands (yes, thousands, not hundreds) of interviews with infidelity victims both male and female, cheating men, cheating women, marriage and family counselors, private investigators who specialize in infidelity investigations, divorce attorneys, couples counselors, relationship coaches, therapists, sociologists, psychologists, and other professionals in the field.
These findings are the result of 14 years of poring over thousands of case histories, and countless infidelity studies, statistics, surveys and polls. Far from being a figment of my imagination, the infidelity books, articles ,
and tip sheets I write are based on solid research.
Studies indicate that 50% - 70% of men cheat on their mates. According to currently available statistics, infidelity affects 80% of all marriages and committed relationships today. When you factor in emotional infidelity, same sex infidelity, workplace infidelity, financial infidelity, and yes – female infidelity, I’d say that figure is closer to 90%.
Why I Research and Write About Infidelity
Yes, I was once a victim of infidelity. Those who are curious, can read my personal story entitled “ Discovering Infidelity – One Woman’s Story ” which is posted here. Far from being a “bitter, vindictive, shrew with a personal vendetta against all men”, as some disgruntled men suggested, I have been happily re-married for 7 years now to a wonderful man who values the sanctity of marriage as highly as I do. Coincidentally, he too, was a victim of infidelity. His first wife cheated on him.
Basically I’m optimistic that the more practical infidelity information made available to people who can benefit from it, the more marriages that can be saved. The fact-finding mission I embarked upon 14 years ago, when as a journalist, I accidentally discovered my now ex-husband’s extramarital affairs, has since become my life’s work.
There are lots of myths and misinformation out there about infidelity. There’s also a lot of useful infidelity information out there people can benefit from which is not easily accessible, or not so easy to find. I promised myself that once I’d recovered from my ordeal, I’d share the results of my infidelity research with the people who need it most.
The Purpose of the Summer Infidelity Awareness Campaign
The books, articles , and tip sheets I write, the Infidelity Awareness Campaigns I run three times a year, and the interviews I do on the topic of infidelity are all aimed at saving marriages, or minimizing the damage infidelity can cause. My goal is to arm people with the information they need to detect or prevent infidelity, or to safeguard their marriage / relationship.
My book, Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs is the first in what will be a series of books written to help people deal with various infidelity issues ranging from discovery to recovery. The more practical, immediately-usable infidelity information I can share with others, the more marriages that can be saved. And if anyone has a problem with that– so be it.
For more information about infidelity, visit my website www.InfidelityAdvice.com