Learning to like & love you: Apply what you do to others to yourself
Posted Sep 23 2013 5:34pm
One particular area of self-esteem that people struggle with is around negative self-talk and being compassionate, and yet most of the time, the very people who struggle with this, have little problem talking and thinking positively about others and expressing compassion. It’s this disconnect between their beliefs, actions and their split lives that leads to a great deal of pain because they build up and give to others while starving themselves of the basics.
This got me thinking about my own journey and how over the years, I’ve become increasingly aware of my vulnerabilities and where I’m likely to be my harshest critic. It has been marrying up the me that interacts with others and my inner and outward self that drives my own relationship with me, that has brought me a great deal of clarity, contentment, congruency, and compassion. In considering my relationship with Em (my husband), as well as my two daughters, friends, family members and readers, below are the key things that I learned about my behaviour with others that have transformed how I treat me.