As people begin to spend more and more time online for both work and pleasure, it’s only natural that you’re going to meet people online through websites and even through friends.
Sometimes, however, people build relationships with others online, even if they’re currently in a relationship with someone in the real world. Is virtual cheating really cheating?
Dear Dan and Jennifer,
Just recently I found out that my husband has been e-mailing other women online. When I confronted him, he said he did not think it was cheating. We have a great marriage and sex life. How do I get past this and begin to trust again?
While many couples define cheating differently, one way of looking at it is through the dishonesty factor. Whether it’s an online relationship or watching pornography when you’re not around, if your partner is dishonest with you about it or only takes part in these activities when you’re not around, you can pretty much bet your partner is cheating on you.
Not cheating in the “I had sex with someone else” sense; we’re talking emotional cheating here, which is often more hurtful than purely physical cheating. If you look at “cheating” through the dishonesty factor, any activity which your partner is dishonest with you about or tries to hide from you can be considered cheating.
Virtual Cheating - How Does It Make You Feel?
If you and your partner have a different take on cheating, for example, if you both feel like cheating is simply having a sexual tryst with someone else, it probably still doesn’t make you feel too great if your partner is chatting online or developing romantic relationships with other people online behind your back.
Just because it might not fall under your definition of cheating, if you’re not comfortable with it, it’s time to speak up!
This goes for anything in your relationship. If you’re not comfortable with something, it’s important that you discuss with your partner the way the virtual relationships and chatting makes you feel so that you can begin to work it out and find boundaries that make you both happy.
Online Sex chat, I think it is cheating, It feels like he is cheating. He clicks out of the chats he is in when you walk into the room. I think it can and most likely will lead to physical cheating, because he can disconnect emotionally with you and become emotionally connected with someone else via chat room, that then can lead to texting and talking secretly on the cell phone and then eventually meeting up. Coming home late, finding physical evidence of some type of encounter in his clothing That was my most recent experience. Even though I'll never know for sure .. I know.