I know that the Independence Day, 4th of July celebration was last weekend but as I celebrated the 4th of July with my family, I couldn't help but wonder how many people are really free in their relationship. If you are in a relationship are you free to be yourself - the good, the bad and the ugly? Or, do you find yourself constantly trying to please your partner but never quite measuring up? Here are some questions to ask yourself to gauge your level of independence in your relationship:
Does my partner start arguments and I find myself apologizing for an infraction I did not commit?
Is my partner critical of my family, friends, my style of dress and does he/she go out of their way to alienate my family and friends and tell me to change my style of dress?
Do we participate in recreational activities that my partner enjoys and I loathe but I just go along to keep the peace?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, you are not truly free and independent within your relationship.
Now, if you are not in a relationship, are you free? What do I mean by that? Well, are you holding off on taking your dream vacation, building your dream home or anything else, "until I meet the right person?" If your doing anything or going anywhere is dependent on whether or not you are in a relationship, you are not living a free, independent life.
Every human being on the face of this earth deserves to be free. It is not enough that we in the United States live in the land of the free and the home of the brave. You need to be free to be you whether you are in a relationship or not. When you dare to be free - then you are truly brave.