by piratefamily5
Break up, take a break, or stay?
I have a concern and need advice about dating other guys or stay with my current boyfriend. Here it goes, I am 20yrs. old. I keep having those thoughts that I want to date other guys just to see if this is as good as it gets. I love my boyfriend and we are in love, but he has dated 2 other girls before me. For me I haven’t really dated anyone just crushes here and there. He is my first for everything, I understand that you really shouldn’t have these thoughts if your “truly in love”, I feel horrible for putting my boyfriend in this situation. I just want to make sure I found the one. How do I know things won’t change down the road? I want to be with him so much, but the long distance is hard. He is always working and I in school for my BA. Does anyone have any other advice? My mother and friends keep saying date other people your still so young, I think that is part of my problem. Everyone is getting in my head and making me feel guilty, “oh you’ll regret it if you settle for the first one. You need to shop around. Or my most unfavorable remark, you need to find someone as “smart” as you.” My boyfriend is supportive in listening to me talk about my feelings which is amazing, but I know this is taking a toll on him. I know this sounds stupid, I am driving my own self crazy…I keep telling myself stop worrying about the future. Yet, how do I know we will be ok, how do I know he is the right one? How can I tell if I am doing the right thing by staying with him. We’ve been together for 3 years now and it seems we have gone through it all and I feel with him we can get through anything, but I can’t shake this inner feelings. Am I the worst for feeling like this? her post is below mine
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Break up, take a break, or stay?
I have a concern and need advice about dating other guys or stay with my current boyfriend. Here it goes, I am 20yrs. old. I keep having those thoughts that I want to date other guys just to see if this is as good as it gets. I love my boyfriend and we are in love, but he has dated 2 other girls before me. For me I haven’t really dated anyone just crushes here and there. He is my first for everything, I understand that you really shouldn’t have these thoughts if your “truly in love”, I feel horrible for putting my boyfriend in this situation. I just want to make sure I found the one. How do I know things won’t change down the road? I want to be with him so much, but the long distance is hard. He is always working and I in school for my BA. Does anyone have any other advice? My mother and friends keep saying date other people your still so young, I think that is part of my problem. Everyone is getting in my head and making me feel guilty, “oh you’ll regret it if you settle for the first one. You need to shop around. Or my most unfavorable remark, you need to find someone as “smart” as you.” My boyfriend is supportive in listening to me talk about my feelings which is amazing, but I know this is taking a toll on him. I know this sounds stupid, I am driving my own self crazy…I keep telling myself stop worrying about the future. Yet, how do I know we will be ok, how do I know he is the right one? How can I tell if I am doing the right thing by staying with him. We’ve been together for 3 years now and it seems we have gone through it all and I feel with him we can get through anything, but I can’t shake this inner feelings. Am I the worst for feeling like this? her post is below mine
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