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I feel a strong decline in sexual drive. My baby is now 13 months. This happened after his birth.

Posted Sep 04 2008 3:05am
The problem of postnatal decrease of women's desire is frequent... and easy to solve! You see, as a young mother you may feel that you have simply too much to do, - and even "always more".
This can induce some breakdown or increase the normal depressive phase after any childbirth, generally due to overtiredness.
In particular if you have soon resumed your professional activities and/or get not enough help from your close relations.
You can find here below an extract of my book 'How to Boooost Your Love Life - and Savor it!", related to your question :

" It’s difficult for many women to balance all the roles which are asked from them: child care and education; often, a profession, plus the journey to and from work; cooking; household; errands; taking and getting the child(ren) to and from the nursery or school, etc. -- AND mistress...
A young mother feels more acutely the "lacks" of her companion and close relations in this case. In particular, his help β€” often considered as little effective β€” in the child care, the household and marginal tasks. Too short nights do not allow a "repairing" sleep.
She may find that her legitimate expectations are not met. That easily leads to rancor or resentment. Overtiredness also, hardly incites her to show herself exuberant in bed: the urge to sleep is too strong.
Last, but not least, a slight hormonal disorder (or painful scars) can also influence this decrease in desire. Analyses and adequate hormonal treatment (thyroid hormone, growth hormone, male hormone…) (or cares the possible wounds) will restore the situation. If your gynecologist can't help you, the best is to consult an endocrinologist or a specialist in internal medicine.

The psychological aspect of the problem is, however, most striking.
It translates a state of utter confusion, the sensation of being dispossessed of one's own life by an excess of responsibilities; to always have to do some more.
Anyway, remember a point, on which one can never insist enough :talk together, explain what you feel to your partner." (...)

Especially, ask your partner to be practical: ask for some more help, ask for more attention, ask him to do his best in helping you in domestic chores: excessive fatigue makes everybody very vulnerable.
Above all, show him your tenderness and ask him to show his; ask him to caress you, to pamper you; go away for some days, the two of you alone, maybe consigning your baby to your close relations...
Ask him finally to show a touch of patience and understanding: everything will come back again if he shows some efforts too, - as it is normal for a loving partner."
You'll find a series of practical and concrete tips in my method 'How to Boooost Your Love Life - and Savor it!", in particular concerning the improvement of your "intimate" life.
My book already did help sooo many couples in the English-, French- and Spanish-speaking world! Why not YOU too?
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